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Here, you can say whatever's on your chest. There WILL BE NO JUDGMENT HERE, just a few rules and one suggestion.
1. No cussing. The Admins are good at trimming, but please give them a break and replace any bad words with various words that have no negative meaning except when used emphatically.
2. Don't tell anybody off. I don't want to see any 'Nobody cares' or stuff like that.
Suggestion: You don't have to use any anonymous name. If you feel like it, I'm not going to hold you back, but the main point of this thread is so that we can come around you and uplift you, and it's kinda hard to do if we don't know who we're doing this for.
Nihil says 'uwin'. I win what?
submitted by Rogue Wildling
(November 24, 2018 - 7:41 pm)
(November 24, 2018 - 7:41 pm)
Why the heck did you edit my comment admins? That was very general and there was nothing controversal, no personal information was given, and I was polite and followed your rules. I guess im just confused.
As I remember, I just tried to improve your definition and differentiate opinions from facts, and to keep it all kind. I don't keep an editing record.
Admin
(December 15, 2018 - 7:51 pm)
Yeah, man, I get that. I'm half-Vietnamese and that kind of thing happens to me all the time. You'd be surprised how many people are shocked that Asian people can be from somewhere other than China.
A lot of what I do is I make a joke over it. Make it clear that I don't think it's cool but don't get super upset about it because then it gets all, "yOu'Re tOo sEnsItiVE!!" and I know how much that sucks. I can't think of any examples off the top of my head, but if I do I'll let you know.
When stuff like that happens to me, I'll talk about it to others and make it funny, make it all, Can you believe they said that? Isn't that stupid? Because then if other people hear it's like, oh, maybe I shouldn't do that, make them the joke of the situation.
Or honestly, just say, "Hey, man, that's not cool" or "That's not funny". It works like 90% of the time if you're chill about it. Don't fake a laugh. It's not funny and you know it. If people see you're not laughing they might feel a bit bad about doing so themselves.
And sometimes, it's worth being thought of as a little uptight. You don't have to tear them a new one, that doesn't do much in the end. Just say when you don't like something or when it's offensive. You're not sensitive, you're right, and your identity and culture are worth so much more than any joke.
(December 16, 2018 - 5:56 pm)
I don't personally have any experience with this, but I will offer you what I can. I agree with what Abigail said -- don't get bent out of shape, but make sure that the people who are telling you this know it isn't OK to hurt others. I know it is really hard when people bully you and make you feel down. They are in the wrong to hurt you. What does it matter what color you are? You are beautiful, and if these people don't take the time to find that out for themselves, they're the ones who are losing out on a magnificent friendship.
People bully each other because it makes them feel less insecure about themselves. Often times they had exposure to being bullied - or maybe they're just a little inconsiderate or don't understand that they are hurting others. They are wrong to hurt you, but they might not realize that. Be gentle and kind, of course (that goes without saying), but perhaps you should try to show them that they are in the wrong in this scenario?
At any rate, don't let it get to you. Every human is magnificent in their own way. You are one of those humans. Don't worry about what others think. If they haven't proven themselves to be worth your judgment, don't give them that privilege.
Also - this is totally random buuuut - I love your username!!
(December 17, 2018 - 6:23 pm)
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa I didn't check back in for a while, so I didn't see this until now, but thanks for all the advice, guys! I was having a bit of a rough day when I posted and seeing that people responded really makes me happy.
(March 31, 2019 - 1:19 pm)
So, I posted my location on a thread. I didn't think it was too much of a problem because it was just the state. This morning I discovered that my friend was not okay with this. When they got to school they said
"I'm mad at you."
I asked what I did wrong, they proceeded to tell me how I have no idea what a big problem I've created and how much of a terrible expeirience they've had with posting their location. Now a bunch of people we don't know jack rabbit about know the state we live in. I told them that there are so many people in our state, it would be nearly impossible to find one person. They told me that they can't say that we are friends in real life on cricket because then, people would know where they lived. Then I cried, like a freaking baby. It made it seem like I was trying to make them feel sorry for me. I don't knoe how to say sorry and I'm scared to them in other classes because I'm afraid that they won't talk to me ever again. I would text them an apology but it's not the same. I also have to see them at girl scouts after school today. I can't stand the idea of losing one of best friends over cricket, I love cricket dearly, but it's not worth losing a friendship (sorry!). Please, how should I apologise?
~Someone who messed up.
(December 18, 2018 - 8:49 am)
I think you should apologize. Or maybe they’ve moved on, and know that you’d learn your mistake. You can always just ask the admins to delete the location on your post, too.
If this comment is concerninng the posting of a state, I think the friends who object are over-reacting. I don't see any way that people can be tracked merely from the state in which they live. Our location field suggests state or even city if it's a big city.
Admin
(December 18, 2018 - 5:28 pm)
Oh, ok. I’ve just, like the friend who objected, had a completely terrible experience with posting my state online, which resulted in my family not really speaking too me normally for so, so long in the summer time. After that, I’ve just been iffy about giving out information like that. I even try to be vague with what clothing I wear, I’m just really anxious about this kind of stuff.
(December 18, 2018 - 8:57 pm)
I've been trying to read this one guy for months. As in, almost a year. The worst part? At first he was merely a puzzle to solve like anybody else, and I felt that I was enjoying solving him, but then I was researching my personality type like I do 'cause I have nothing better to do with my life, and I found that that's how my personality falls in love. Now I'm kind of freaking out because I don't WANT to fall in love, but he's so great and I can't help wondering if he likes me. Then, the other night I was playing piano and I got up to go do something else. I walked past him and apparently he was listening because he quietly said 'Good job'. I said thank you, walked away, and tried to figure it out for the rest of the night. We're not exactly close, but he's the brother of one of my friends and we kind of count each other as friends, but for the most part we ignore each other. He's quiet, doesn't pay attention to most of his peers, but when we speak to each other he looks me in the eyes and smiles. He usually smiles when he sees me, but not broadly, just sweetly.
What I'm trying to ask/say is, should I like him? Is that what I'm supposed to do? Does he like me? All I want is clarity! This would be a lot easier if anybody here has a boyfriend. Probably.
I really don't know why I'm telling you guys this I'm sorry I should leave oh my gosh why am I submitting this aaaaaaaaaaaah please don't try to guess who I am
A note: I haven't told anybody else about this. EVER.
(December 20, 2018 - 8:52 pm)
That's really brave of you to tell us that. Unfortunately, I have no experience with love or significant others, so sorry, I can't help you there. Hope you find your clear answers, though!
(December 21, 2018 - 2:00 pm)
Thanks, Rogue, for the support and stuff. LOL haven't approached him yet though I still need answers.
(December 25, 2018 - 8:20 pm)
Makes sense. I would wait for answers, too. XP
CAN ANYBODY HELP A WONDERER. HE OR SHE OR OTHER NEEDS HELP.
(December 28, 2018 - 11:58 pm)
I have delt with something similar (I'm much to young for it. I'm not even thriteen). I would suggest to stop the detective work, and talk with somebody you trust. If you like their advice, then use it with the boy. Or ask him if he likes you. If he says yes, then say your feelings. If you don't like him, you don't like him. You shouldn't belive that you should like him.
(January 8, 2019 - 6:19 pm)
I guess I can help you because I kind of have a boyfriend (but now really). We both know that we like each other, but we don't know what to do. In your situation, I would try to talk to him more often. Like, every once in a while say "hi" or "hey" or ask him about homework, sports, etc. Do you have his phone number? If you do, maybe try texting him and saying hi. Good luck!!
(January 9, 2019 - 7:33 pm)
My brother is jerky and selfish and on his device all the time. I started to dislike him last year now that has grown into full blown 'I will not think about you'. Just the way he mumbles through words is enough to make my fuse be cut short. He is the source of this problem. There he goes stomping up the stairs. He is a human turkey (sandra boynton). He has earbuds in all the time, listining to junk. So when he pumps it through his speaker I hear it. He is annoying and quite a gamer. He also doesn't use headphones/earbuds when he is in a public space (he tells me to stop doing stuff because of 'this is a public space) where people are trying to read and decide what to eat (I don't like to eat). So by the end of the day I want to punch him and I can't because of a big punishment. So I use snarky tones. I dispise him. He is super annoying and I feel so much like the older one.
(January 6, 2019 - 3:41 pm)
I dispise being with little kids (why I never sign up for things with younger less smart kids in it). So in my 4h club there are little kids, and many middle schoolers who are acting like younger kids. Do I want to talk about my writing and have it possibly made fun of? No. So why do I have to go to 4h if it has no redeming value? 'Because it is a good experience'. I wish I could quit 4h. And my progect manual doesn't specify what I need to do. It is super annoying and-
I got all the steam out of me, but it will probably be back.
(January 8, 2019 - 11:20 am)