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Here, you can say whatever's on your chest. There WILL BE NO JUDGMENT HERE, just a few rules and one suggestion.
1. No cussing. The Admins are good at trimming, but please give them a break and replace any bad words with various words that have no negative meaning except when used emphatically.
2. Don't tell anybody off. I don't want to see any 'Nobody cares' or stuff like that.
Suggestion: You don't have to use any anonymous name. If you feel like it, I'm not going to hold you back, but the main point of this thread is so that we can come around you and uplift you, and it's kinda hard to do if we don't know who we're doing this for.
Nihil says 'uwin'. I win what?
submitted by Rogue Wildling
(November 24, 2018 - 7:41 pm)
(November 24, 2018 - 7:41 pm)
I feel as though I'm sliding. When I first joined, I never wanted to leave. I've been here almost three years and have never taken a hiatus. I wanted to stay and write stories with my friends forever. I was part of EVIL's Revenge and Evernaught City, and I prided myself on my dedication to those RPs when one of them finished and I saw the other past forty pages since I had joined. I thought I would stay forever and ever and ever.
I couldn't find RPs I wanted to join for a long time. When I joined One Hundred Years, I wasn't dedicated enough. I didn't like how the story went and how it seemed to fixate on only a few characters, but more importantly I was so busy. Or, I should have been. I have so much work to do and so many tests and classes and applications but I'm not doing any of it. I'm just doing all the night before it's due because I can't get started earlier. It's stressing me out, so to prevent that I'm just ignoring all the work. Just not gonna think about it, cause if I think about it I'll be anxious and that's no fun. Never mind how rewarding it is to work, never mind how much I love using my brain and figuring things out. If I have to do it eventually, I won't do it at all until it turns into something I needed to do three hours ago. Then I do it brilliantly, hastily, sloppily, and stay up until 1:00 in the morning. I'm incredibly tired. I haven't gone to bed before 12:00 for about a month. Probably more, but I don't remember.
Used to be, I'd check this site every day. Multiple times a day. During school breaks, after tests, at home. It was better than school, cause at school I was lonely. But that's sort of changed. I have friends now. It used to be that you lot were, maybe not my only friends, but a large portion of them. That's sort of changed. I'm not a nostalgic person, so seeing people come and go has never bothered me much. It's life, ya know? I just feel as though I am not as known anymore. Obviously if one doesn't go on one isn't going to get as much recognition, so this makes sense. But I wonder, on sad days: Do you remember me?
Cockleburr, the one with the chickens, right? I remember you!
Admin
(November 29, 2018 - 10:13 pm)
*hugs*
I most certainly remember you. You're absolutely important.
(November 30, 2018 - 1:16 pm)
Yes, Cockleburr! How could we forget you? You're amazing! I'm sorry that your life has been so hectic but the CB will always be here when you need it. And we're not going to forget about you.
(November 30, 2018 - 1:29 pm)
That is completely correct.
NOTE: I know there was a Secret in the past who left. That is not me. When I joined, I ahd no idea there was a Secret before me.
(November 30, 2018 - 3:58 pm)
Of course I remember you!!! *hugs* You are always a fun, positive and super enjoyable person! I love talking to you about everything and anything. Most of all I love hearing stories about your animals. You have such a fantastic imagination. Your AEs are awesome. I absolutely LOVE your name, although I have to admit I have misspelled it before. And above all you are a wonderful person. OH! And you are an amazing artist!
I understand not getting motivated to do things...believe me, I know the feeling. I have a whole week every week to work on my science homework, but is SWEAR I always end up doing it late the night before. It's really strange, how you can so easily put things off for so long. Do yourself a favor. Make a goal to complete one task as soon as possible. Maybe it is homework for one class or making a piece of art, I don't know...but decide to do that thing in a prompt fashion. Make a time where you intend to have it done and then do it. Don't decide to PLAN to do it. No, no! Actually do it. I know this is super hard and BELIEVE me I need to take my own advice, but once you actually do the thing you decided to do...it feels SO amazing! And it makes you feel invincible.
As for slipping away from Cricket...I've found myself doing that a lot too. It's alright. As sad as it may make us...it's not the end of the world. We can always come back, just to say hello. Even if we don't stay for long. Plus there is always February 14th to look forward to! ...I don't know what else I can tell you to do about the CB. Just know that we still remember you. I have made so many wonderful friends and memories on Cricket. There is no way that I will be able to remember all the memories or all the names...but the people who I really connected with? The amazing memories I made? They will always be a part of who I am. You were one of those people. You still are. <3
(November 30, 2018 - 6:33 pm)
I am going to rant about various things.
I have a bunch of annoying classmates. Earlier, I was partnered up with one of them and he kept shouting what our supposed team name was. I tried pointing out that it isn't a team if he's the only one in it, but he just talked over me. Puberty sucks, and I'm starting much earlier than my classmates. My art skills are crud. Gym class and Spanish class suck. The new Star Wars movies take away everything that makes Star Wars Star Wars. I have no right to be ranting about my tiny sorrows when people have no food in their fridges and no house to go to after school. No I feel guilty and want to go do some good for the world. Bye.
(November 30, 2018 - 5:56 pm)
You are valid and your feelings are valid, Soren. The fact that others have worse problems than you doesn't mean your problems don't matter! They matter. You matter.
(November 30, 2018 - 9:53 pm)
Soren you have every right to be unhappy as the rest of us, as Cockleburr said, you matter. Your opinions matter.
(December 1, 2018 - 2:01 pm)
As both Cockleburr and Darkking said, you have every right to your emotions. Every person has emotions and sometimes you just have to get those emotions out of your system. It's only natural to feel low sometimes. In the long run, talking about your emotions and getting them out of your system really does do you good. Everyone has ups and downs. It will get better, I promise.
(December 1, 2018 - 8:52 pm)
I don't know if this can go here, but I would like some advice and don't want to make a new thread for it.
One of my friends is depressed and unhappy, and while they generally act cheerful and joke about it, I can tell they're really struggling. Whenever I casually ask if I can help out in any way, they shrug it off, tell me that they're fine, and ask me to not worry about them.
I know that it's not fine. And I have no idea how I can let them know that I'm there for them.
(December 1, 2018 - 10:37 am)
My bit of advice for you: Tell them that you know that they’re not fine and ask them directly how to help them/If they want to talk about it. This might not be the best advice but I think it may help a bit, to let them know that you care.
I’ve never known anyone in my life with depression so I don’t know what it’s like but I hope that you can help them.
(December 1, 2018 - 12:54 pm)
@_ Get them in a secluded place away from prying eyes. Somewhere where that feel safe. In my experience, bring them food, too. Then, ask them to tell you what's wrong, and say that you know they're not fine and that you want to help as their friend. If they open up, don't interject until they're done telling you what's going on.
@Cockleburr, of course I remember you, how could I forget? You're a CBer, like us. You fit in here, even if you don't contribute often. :)
(December 1, 2018 - 1:21 pm)
Judging by how I feel, and how I've heard others feel, cornering them and forcing them to open up is NOT the right strategy. You're more likely to make your friend uncomfortable and untrusting towards you than help them. Instead, tell them exactly what you just said - that you're there for them. You don't need to find out what's wrong; just make it clear to them that you care about them, you're there if they ever want to talk, and make sure that they know that they have a loving support system if they ever need it. I know just a simple, offhand "you're a fantastic person!" can make my day when I'm feeling down. Sometimes that's all you need.
This sounds like good advice. Just be there and willing to listen if your friend wants to talk.
Admin
(December 1, 2018 - 8:40 pm)
I agree with Rogue Wildling. Tell them that you are there for them and ask if they want to talk. If they don't want to talk, don't press them. Be gentle around them, because the last thing you want is to upset them more. If they don't want to express themselves orally or listen to you talk, show them that you care. Often times showing is far more powerful then telling. Do little things for them. Things that aren't really big, but show that you care. Give them food, talk about things that will brighten them up and give them hugs or if you aren't in a position where hugs are comfortable, just smile. Offer positivity and show them that you love them. Tell them through your actions that you are there for them and that it will be alright. Be gentle but strong for them. That's probably what they need most. Also, it is totally possible that they just need space. If you feel like you are making them more uncomfortable than don't push it. Sometimes people just need some room to figure things out, especially if they are introverted.
(December 1, 2018 - 9:04 pm)
Sorry, Darkking, but I'm going to have to disagree there and say that telling them that they're not fine isn't a thing you should do. I have anxiety (or at least I get really anxious sometimes, it's not like diagnosed or anything) and a lot of the time when I'm having a panic attack I'm working really hard to convince myself that everything is okay, so having someone say "You're not okay" would make me feel worse. Maybe make a joke like, "I want you to be better than fine" or something? In other advice, I think that what everyone is saying about saying you're there for them sounds good.
(December 2, 2018 - 5:25 pm)