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submitted by Anonymous, age x, x
(October 15, 2020 - 1:43 pm)
(October 15, 2020 - 1:43 pm)
oof, I feel you. I tend to worry a lot about my appearance, which, I know, how I look isn't the most important thing. But still, it's frustrating :/
(July 28, 2023 - 11:16 am)
I also feel the same way, as I am basically the shortest person in my class. Sometimes I would just feel frustrated with my height (mainly since I can't reach anything high), but I've kind of grown to try and accept it. Whenever anyone asks why I'm so short, it always gives me that upset feeling, but I just say genetics or whatever, and they usually will accept it. As for sports, I get what you mean, like in basketball or swimming...
This might not help, but my advice is basically to try and ignore the disadvantages and focus on the advantages, such as being able to fit in small places. And I just mainly try to accept it. And I don't think you need to worry if it's important or not. We're all here if you need to rant about anything :D
(July 30, 2023 - 11:03 pm)
Fun fact: you're not at a basketball disadvantage! Muggsey Bogues was the shortest player in the NBA: only five foot three (only two inches taller than you, most likely you'll eventually grow to that height), and he was a basketball STAR. His defense was awesome, and he was just a really well rounded player in general.
(August 9, 2023 - 5:01 pm)
Could I just… get a virtual hug or something? I had kind of a bad day, and I feel really sad rn. It's hard to explain but I just feel really embarrassed and stressed.
(July 28, 2023 - 8:11 pm)
Yes! Of course! *virtual hugs* Anything you need, Peri! We're all here for you.
(July 28, 2023 - 10:01 pm)
Well, I'm way too late responding to this, but I just wanted to say I'm sorry you had a bad day and I hope things get better :) *sends virtual hugs and virtual ice cream*
(August 3, 2023 - 8:44 pm)
I feel ya mate :/ *bear hug*
(August 4, 2023 - 11:51 am)
this week was my first week of school and school itself has been pretty okay but i am stressed for other reasons. my parents really want me to meet new people and make friends, and i want to too, but they want me to start conversations and walk up to complete strangers and start asking them questions. i get really anxious when talking to new people so that's really hard for me. it also always feels like an interrogation kind of so i feel like i'm doing something wrong. my parents almost said i wasn't allowed to bring a book to school because i use reading as a "crutch" for when i don't want to talk to people, which was incredibly upsetting, but we kind of compromised so now i'm allowed to bring a book but not allowed to read on the bus or during lunch because apparently those are the most social times of the day. the thing is though- i make friends in my classes without forcing anything, and even when i don't i don't mind. i enjoy being alone more than i enjoy talking to people usually, unless i'm talking to really good friends or family. the good news is that someone asked me after lunch today if i want to sit with her and her friend because i was sitting alone, so i guess that'll be nice. honestly i would be really excited for this year if there wasn't so much pressure to meet people- i have really nice teachers, one of my best friends in two of my classes and my other best friend in one class (the first is in 1st and 2nd period and the second is in 7th period) so that definitely makes the day easier. i think i'll enjoy science more this year (we're doing chemistry and physics) and ELA (i think we'll be writing a lot of narrative/fiction stories instead of informational and argumentative essays) so overall great year ahead. if my parents stop forcing me to meet random people. : )
(sorry for long post admins)
(August 3, 2023 - 4:26 pm)
I have had slightly similar experiences, and I can TRY to give advice, but it may or may not work.
First, when you're at school, your parents don't know if you've been socializing or not, so you can choose not to socialize when your parents aren't around. This is kind of sneaky, and it may not work, so try plan B first before attempting this as a last resort.
Second, you can try explaining to them in a logical manner why it's not a good idea to force you to meet random people. Example: humans are terrible at hiding their emotions or intentions, and logically people would want to be your friend more if they know you aren't forcing it. After all, no one wants to have a friend who is only friends with them because their parents forced them to. You can make a list of all the ways you HAVE made friends without forcing it, as well as all the times your parents forced you too, and seeing why not forcing it is actually a better alternative.
(August 3, 2023 - 10:41 pm)
Oh and I HATE having to start conversations. I only like talking with a select few adults and kids who really understand me. And for kids, that's basically 2 people. For adults, it's like 2 (not counting my parents).
(August 3, 2023 - 10:58 pm)
Yes, that's me too!!
(August 4, 2023 - 10:15 am)
So... dealing with my own attitude? A year ago I promised myself I wouldn't have one, but now it's so hard to contain it, and sometimes, well... sometimes I don't WANT to, even if I know it's wrong.
(August 7, 2023 - 1:08 am)
update on this. i thought it was over and was sorely mistaken. i was beginning to enjoy school but then my parents reminded me again i need to talk to people. the problem is- i have to talk to people because i literally have to report to them exactly who i talk to (other than my good friends) each day and i'm a terrible liar. also, they don't care if it seems weird or awkward. their goal isn't actually for me to make new friends, but for me to be more able to talk to people i don't know we'll without being stressed. i can see why it would help in the long run but currently, it just makes a very stressful thing even more stressful because i know my parents (at least my dad; my mom is a little more understanding about this) will be angry/disappointed/annoyed. and my dad says the conversations don't have to be arguments and the only time he'll get frustrated is when i'm "disrespectful or defiant"- but he pretty much considers me disagreeing with him in any way as defiant. i wish i could talk to people but sometimes i just can't. even a simple question i have to think really hard about how to word it and even when i've repeated it in my head a bunch i still get really nervous. i can talk to my friends, and i can talk when people talk to me, but starting conversations is really hard. i wish my parents would understand that if in the future i really NEED to talk to people i am physically able to but i just really don't want to right now. it just doesn't seem fair- it's hard to enjoy any part of school at all when the only thing i'm really focusing on is trying to force some conversation just so my dad will leave me alone once i get home. sorry again for long post admins
(August 9, 2023 - 7:16 pm)
Wow. Hmmmm (like you said). Well, as I said before, this is kinda my situation so I may be able to find you some advice but probably not bc the situation is also totally not the same, cuz your parents seem a lot stricter than mine. So... I think that... well... I don't really struggle with wording as much but I do struggle with WHEN (not how) to say something. For example, did you know that over here is the first time I've actually said lol and even after a lot of thought if it makes sense? But even then, I kinda have to jump, and OH I SO WANT TO TELL YOU TO JUST DO YOU AND YOU DON'T HAVE TO TALK TO ANYONE IF YOU DON'T WANT TO AND MAYBE YOU CAN TALK TO YOUR DAD but probably not, right? As I said, my parents start a lot of conversations for me, but maybe just ask someone something about themself (ppl kinda love to talk about themselves, and you don't have to say as much when they're talking) or ask a question about homework/school-or-activity related something (I do this a LOT, it's kinda like you have no choice but to ask it, and to this specific person, so they can't rly blame you for asking about what the homework was if you get what I'm saying), or just stocking up on random fun facts and riddles and being knowledgeable. I wish I could give some better advice, sorry... good luck! Gtg be back later
(August 9, 2023 - 9:37 pm)
This would be kind of comical, and may work:
Ask people ONE SIMPLE QUESTION that requires a complicated answer. It doesn't have to be a long question, so you're only in the misery for a few seconds. Then, while they're talking, walk away. So, you "talked" with them. Ta-da! It might work, and as far as your "terrible liar" problem goes, you wouldn't have to lie because you did talk to them--but you just said one line and left (of course, don't tell your parents that part of it:) )
Hope it's helpful!
(August 10, 2023 - 9:48 am)