I’m questioning and think I might be bi? But I’m only 11 and I don’t know if this is actually happening or not? If that makes sense.
On another note, I want to paint my nails for pride month. Does anyone know what colors I should use? I was thinking the six-color rainbow plus pink, turquoise, black, and brown.
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submitted by Sempreverde (June 6, 2024 - 11:35 pm)
Hello! Sorry I'm a little late, I am certainly going to be on the CB more during summer.
A couple years back I had my first crush on a girl. I then told my parents about the fact that maybe I wasn't that straight. Luckily I have really supportive friends and family who were there for me along my journey. Fast forward to last year and I was out as pan. I even went to my first pride festival! We got rained out a couple hours later, but we had so much fun! Then I started to discover that I was Omni,and on top of that, I felt like I was only partially a girl. I looked through some labels, and discovered that I was a Demigirl! I was a bit female, and a bit non-binary .
I went to my second pride festival this year, at the beginning of the month, and saw a wonderful, valid community. I see a wonderful valid right now, here on the CB. I'm glad to see both the LGBTQ+ community, and the CB grow and change and expand.
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submitted by Luna silvermoon, she/they (June 8, 2024 - 9:43 pm)
@Sempreverde, you being 11 doesn't mean you can't be bi! It's technically possible that your orientation can change when you get older, but that's okay, and that wouldn't change or invalidate how you identify now. besides, a lot of people know their orientation by the time they're 11 or even younger.
I 100% agree with Sybill! I think there's been a lot of talk about "what am I" on this thread, and while that's totally fine, ultimately I think there's a lot of stress about it and it's perfectly fine to slow down :D
Also @parodies, nonbinary doesn't inherently mean neutral, and trans doesn't inherently mean you're not the gender you were assigned at birth - you can be multiple genders, and one can be what you were assigned at birth. also gender can fluctate and change, and that in itself can be nonbinary. but really, don't worry too much about it? You don't have to stress about finding a label. And you can always just be questioning! also you said pangender means any pronouns - that would be panpronominal or using all pronouns. Pangender means that you identify with all genders (except for culturally exclusive ones or such), more or less. Gender and pronouns are seperate. I'm not saying you're not pangender ofc, just clearing that specific phrasing up in case it confuses someone. idk if this sounds harsh, it isn't meant to :D
Orientation is weird... i don't really have crushes (meshes? idk what the word would be) anyway. I think I'm mostly gay though. at the very least I identify the most with gay culture and it's more of a gender word for me in a way. And very very a-spec - instead of romantic, it's some nebulous tertiary attraction :P I have no idea what it would be called, just tertiary in some way.
anyway, just expressing my thankfullness to the CB again for introducing me to queerness. I had never really understood gender roles, even the over-enforced ones. And before I came on here, I had no idea what gay or lesbian meant, or even that it was possible for that to happen, let alone anything about gender. i think that was part of why i was so anti-romance actually, because being straight was just wrong and I didn't know why or how or that anything else existed. Obviously I'm still aro and not always the most romance-favorable, but.
also pride has been hard bc i'm closeted... but at least there's not much pride stuff where i live so it doesn't come up much. i did go to a semi-nearby huge city to get some violin stuff done though and there was this whole bookshelf of entirely queer books at a book store and i wish i could have looked at them! ...only the only person who walked by them was like "ha, look at all the LGBTQIA+ books" like it was really pointless and weird but oh well.
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submitted by Blackfooted Bobcat (June 23, 2024 - 11:19 pm)
age doesn't really affect it, i was bi and nonbinary when i was eleven, because that's the way i am, you know? but when you're younger, you sometimes get it wrong. that's okay though. you grow and learn. for a time i thought i was ace, that is not true. but i don't feel bad about thinking i was, because i figured myself out. it was a long journey, but overall a good one.
tl:dr , don't feel bad experimenting with labels, but know that you won't always get it right first try
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submitted by LE@sinusoidal (June 25, 2024 - 9:19 pm)
I would just be careful and maybe not introduce yourself as aro/ace to strangers, even queer ones, because some people take that as a challenge, and when you're that young it can be kinda traumatic. Idk just speaking from personal experience. I still identify as ace and lean towards being aro, just as I have since I was pretty young, but don't to lead with it; I just make it clear I'm not comfortable with a lot of physical contact or inappropriate subject matter, and people can take the hint.
Yay! My local coffee shop is hosting a little Pride themed farmers market at the park next to it. And they have special drinks...there's one with lavender and eatable flowers. Also I might be bi but I don't really know because I'm so young. I don't want to put a label on myself, so for now I'll just be me.
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submitted by Peregrine Falcon (June 25, 2024 - 10:16 am)
I'm pretty sure I'm aroace, but I don't dislike romance. like if someone said "hey they're so good together" and pointed out a couple I would love it, I like it, I don't particularly seek out romantic relationships but I like seeing them. but if someone tried talking to me about their own romantic relationships, or even tried talking to me about me having romantic relationships, I feel really uncomfortable because I'm just... not interested. in that. idk. I like romance? and it's interesting to think about me having romance? but I never see myself being romantic from a first-person point of view, I just kind of look at myself as though I'm a different person and think it's interesting.
does this count as aroace/aromantic/ace?? also is it ok to be Christian and be aroace?
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submitted by idk? if I wanna say?, age aaaughh, i feel so graaaagh (June 26, 2024 - 10:27 am)
Happy Pride Month!
I’m questioning and think I might be bi? But I’m only 11 and I don’t know if this is actually happening or not? If that makes sense.
On another note, I want to paint my nails for pride month. Does anyone know what colors I should use? I was thinking the six-color rainbow plus pink, turquoise, black, and brown.
(June 6, 2024 - 11:35 pm)
Hello! Sorry I'm a little late, I am certainly going to be on the CB more during summer.
A couple years back I had my first crush on a girl. I then told my parents about the fact that maybe I wasn't that straight. Luckily I have really supportive friends and family who were there for me along my journey. Fast forward to last year and I was out as pan. I even went to my first pride festival! We got rained out a couple hours later, but we had so much fun! Then I started to discover that I was Omni,and on top of that, I felt like I was only partially a girl. I looked through some labels, and discovered that I was a Demigirl! I was a bit female, and a bit non-binary .
I went to my second pride festival this year, at the beginning of the month, and saw a wonderful, valid community. I see a wonderful valid right now, here on the CB. I'm glad to see both the LGBTQ+ community, and the CB grow and change and expand.
(June 8, 2024 - 9:43 pm)
Happy pride! Here's some pride flag earrings that I made earlier :)
(June 9, 2024 - 10:43 am)
yo those look so cool!! :D do you sell them? they look really professional :D
(June 12, 2024 - 6:28 pm)
Thanks! I sell some of them to friends of me and my sister but I haven't set up a formal shop yet, although I'm planning on it this summer.
(June 14, 2024 - 11:22 am)
I literally don't have anything rainbow to wear so the first few days of this month I wore:
yes >:D also this is not me digging up my laundry. No. Totally not. *inconspicuous whistling*
(June 13, 2024 - 10:27 am)
And then I threw in some other colors, just for funsies! Also idk what colors are actually on the Pride flag, soo... the more the merrier? :D
(June 13, 2024 - 10:29 am)
We need more pride action!!!
@Sempreverde, you being 11 doesn't mean you can't be bi! It's technically possible that your orientation can change when you get older, but that's okay, and that wouldn't change or invalidate how you identify now. besides, a lot of people know their orientation by the time they're 11 or even younger.
I 100% agree with Sybill! I think there's been a lot of talk about "what am I" on this thread, and while that's totally fine, ultimately I think there's a lot of stress about it and it's perfectly fine to slow down :D
Also @parodies, nonbinary doesn't inherently mean neutral, and trans doesn't inherently mean you're not the gender you were assigned at birth - you can be multiple genders, and one can be what you were assigned at birth. also gender can fluctate and change, and that in itself can be nonbinary. but really, don't worry too much about it? You don't have to stress about finding a label. And you can always just be questioning! also you said pangender means any pronouns - that would be panpronominal or using all pronouns. Pangender means that you identify with all genders (except for culturally exclusive ones or such), more or less. Gender and pronouns are seperate. I'm not saying you're not pangender ofc, just clearing that specific phrasing up in case it confuses someone. idk if this sounds harsh, it isn't meant to :D
Orientation is weird... i don't really have crushes (meshes? idk what the word would be) anyway. I think I'm mostly gay though. at the very least I identify the most with gay culture and it's more of a gender word for me in a way. And very very a-spec - instead of romantic, it's some nebulous tertiary attraction :P I have no idea what it would be called, just tertiary in some way.
anyway, just expressing my thankfullness to the CB again for introducing me to queerness. I had never really understood gender roles, even the over-enforced ones. And before I came on here, I had no idea what gay or lesbian meant, or even that it was possible for that to happen, let alone anything about gender. i think that was part of why i was so anti-romance actually, because being straight was just wrong and I didn't know why or how or that anything else existed. Obviously I'm still aro and not always the most romance-favorable, but.
also pride has been hard bc i'm closeted... but at least there's not much pride stuff where i live so it doesn't come up much. i did go to a semi-nearby huge city to get some violin stuff done though and there was this whole bookshelf of entirely queer books at a book store and i wish i could have looked at them! ...only the only person who walked by them was like "ha, look at all the LGBTQIA+ books" like it was really pointless and weird but oh well.
(June 23, 2024 - 11:19 pm)
I'm 11, could it be possible that I'm aro?
(June 25, 2024 - 8:30 pm)
age doesn't really affect it, i was bi and nonbinary when i was eleven, because that's the way i am, you know? but when you're younger, you sometimes get it wrong. that's okay though. you grow and learn. for a time i thought i was ace, that is not true. but i don't feel bad about thinking i was, because i figured myself out. it was a long journey, but overall a good one.
tl:dr , don't feel bad experimenting with labels, but know that you won't always get it right first try
(June 25, 2024 - 9:19 pm)
I would just be careful and maybe not introduce yourself as aro/ace to strangers, even queer ones, because some people take that as a challenge, and when you're that young it can be kinda traumatic. Idk just speaking from personal experience. I still identify as ace and lean towards being aro, just as I have since I was pretty young, but don't to lead with it; I just make it clear I'm not comfortable with a lot of physical contact or inappropriate subject matter, and people can take the hint.
(June 26, 2024 - 12:27 pm)
okay, that sucks, sorry if i gave potentially bad advice, i'm glad someone with experience stepped in.
"take it as a challenge." that is terrible.
(June 26, 2024 - 1:49 pm)
(June 24, 2024 - 5:30 pm)
Yay! My local coffee shop is hosting a little Pride themed farmers market at the park next to it. And they have special drinks...there's one with lavender and eatable flowers. Also I might be bi but I don't really know because I'm so young. I don't want to put a label on myself, so for now I'll just be me.
(June 25, 2024 - 10:16 am)
so like
I'm pretty sure I'm aroace, but I don't dislike romance. like if someone said "hey they're so good together" and pointed out a couple I would love it, I like it, I don't particularly seek out romantic relationships but I like seeing them. but if someone tried talking to me about their own romantic relationships, or even tried talking to me about me having romantic relationships, I feel really uncomfortable because I'm just... not interested. in that. idk. I like romance? and it's interesting to think about me having romance? but I never see myself being romantic from a first-person point of view, I just kind of look at myself as though I'm a different person and think it's interesting.
does this count as aroace/aromantic/ace?? also is it ok to be Christian and be aroace?
(June 26, 2024 - 10:27 am)