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submitted by KatanaLuna , age matchmaker
(July 27, 2024 - 9:55 am)
(July 27, 2024 - 9:55 am)
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(July 28, 2024 - 8:43 am)
(July 28, 2024 - 8:13 pm)
Oh my, what a fantastic thought!
I was in the middle of typing up a huge rant, but I've thought better of it. I'll just do a small one.
So basically there is this guy I met at marching band and he's friends with my little sister because he's in her section. I don't really know when it started but yeah I'm pretty sure I like him. He's trans, likes theatre and science (especially psychology), has a similar sense of humour and has physical and mental health issues too, so we're in some of the same clubs/classes/social groups and kind of look out for each other because we have similar problems and interests. We also drive him and his younger brother home sometimes because their parents are insanely busy, so we hang out a fair bit. (It's kind of weird because I know his ex-girlfriend and kinda heard a lot of her simping over him when they were still together and idk how to feel about that) but we get along pretty well and he's, you know, someone I've actually spoken with consistently, which is better than I can say for most. Like, I'd consider us friends? But yeah, I've liked him for a while and kind of have that protective instinct since he's a year younger than me, plus I got him into a lot of clubs and introduced him to people so I feel kind of responsible for making sure he's safe in all those situations. But he just recently got a boyfriend. That I'm not really supposed to know about because it's a secret. He seems happy, so I'm kind of happy. But also... Haha, it's kind of stupid because it's not like I was seriously ever going to ask him out, but it's still like. Dude, you lost your chance. And I keep thinking about all the times I could have said something or was internally kinda simping when he was around but just didn't say anything and it's driving me crazyyyyyy. WHY AM I SO GOOD AT MASKING SOMETIMES. Like. Pls send help I literally can't stop thinking about him and I hate it because he's literally already happy and it's not like things would have worked out anyway, but my brain keeps on trying to be hopeful and say that maybe even though I don't really deserve attention from him, maybe something more could've happened. Lol also he didn't remotely bothered when I started dating someone a while back, so yeah, pretty sure he feels nothing like that towards me BUT STILL. Aghhhh. He's so cool and good at things, but is still relatable and confident and really thoughtful. Also he's hugged me a couple times and I totally was freaking out inside lol. I don't know if I even like him romantically to be honest, because I like people platonically and maybe I'm just worried now that he's dating someone he'll leave friends like me behind or something. Like, I know I'm on the AroAce spectrum and I don't really know what I'm even hoping for anyway. +5 self-hatred :'D7
I know said this wasn't going to be long, and I promise what I was originally typing was way longer and crazier. I was going to include more previous crushes. Hahaha. What fun. You will have to make due with this instead.
(July 28, 2024 - 9:05 pm)
okay so my crush (who is officially not romantically interested in me, sadly) is the sweetest, cutest, nicest, most adorable, most amazing guy who has ever existed. He's really sweet - he'll always notice how people are feeling and try to make them feel better (and he usually succeeds). He's very caring and generous, and he has that gift of making you feel better just by his presence. He's also very optimistic and positive, so while he does lose his temper sometimes, and he has his sad moments just like anyone else, he's generally determined and happy and enthusiastic, and his enthusiasm seems to radiate from him and communicate itself to everyone who's around him. He has that joy in living. I love that about him - I'm so tired of being surrounded by people who are constantly negative and focusing on the unpleasant details. Like, of course it's important to look at the real world and not let yourself be led astray by wishful thinking, but you can perfectly well manage without always dwelling on the freaking negative details!!
(mini-rant there, sorry)
Anyway, aside from being super-sweet, he's also very socially skilled and charismatic and at ease in any social situation, something I'm definitely not. I really admire his ability to charm people while at the same time being genuinely himself. And he actually likes people and being with them. It's something that seems to be kind of rare in my experience - how many teenage boys are there who are super socially skilled? He's an ESFP, which makes sense, I guess - he's the performer personality type. He loves to have attention and entertain everyone, which I personally think is wonderful, because if I'm going to fall in love with someone, I want him to keep my attention occupied from the start. I'm sure there's a lot to be said for falling in love slowly, and I know you should never judge from appearances and all that, but I really like people whose good traits I don't have to spend time looking for - they show all their charisma and caringness and sparkle right away, and they take your breath away and you just sit back and watch them and end up falling in love :)
He's also terribly funny when he chooses to be, and he has a wonderful sense of humor - he's always laughing :) Even when he's not strictly hilarious, he's being playful, and I like that :) There was one time when he was leaving after an event, and he started clapping with this goofy smile on his face, and somehow he looked so much like a granny in a feather boa, and the funny thing was that you could tell he knew he looked that way and that he was trying to give off the feather boa vibe. It was really funny.
Okay, so that's his sweet/caring/entertaining side. (Oh, and also he has this naive/innocent streak which is just so adorable. :))) ) Paradoxically, he also has this super-cool, super-poised side that helps him be in control (or look like he's in control) of every situation, so he comes across all laid-back but also like he's dominating the situation in a very masculine way, which leaves me kind of fluttery and excited?? It's kind of hard to explain. I HATE it when people are bossy or domineering, but what he does isn't really being bossy or domineering. It's just like he's on top of the situation, and he has everything under control, and all decisions are definitely going to be made by him, and he knows it, but he's not going to be difficult because of it. It's a very laid-back kind of being in control, if that makes sense. Also he's just so excited about everything and so innocent - it's like it never even occurs to him that he's being peremptory - that you don't really mind. And taken together with his obvious sweetness and enthusiasm, it's just so nice. Because on the one hand his sweetness is very melting, but on the other hand a person who was only sweet would get a little uninteresting. His more masculine side is like the salt in food (terrible simile but hopefully it conveys what I mean??) And very exciting, which is a nice contrast to the melting thing. And it also gives you the sense that you can just sit back and let him take care of everything and trust him, which is so restful and.... nice. Naturally you'd probably manage everything behind the scenes, as so many women do, but he does have his own opinions on things and he can make his own decisions without relying on his partner all the time.
He also has a really strong personality and he does lose his temper sometimes, which is one of my least favorite things about him, but it doesn't really matter because with him, he expresses his emotions as they come, and then they're over. They don't linger; within a few minutes it's all over. Also one of my favorite things about him is his complete lack of pride (the bad kind of pride, that is). I personally am a very proud person, and it makes life a lot harder for me - I don't like to have anyone tell me what to do, or to be seen lacking. But he's fine with taking criticism, and with looking silly, and all that stuff. I really admire that about him. However, he does not let people trample on him (another very attractive thing about him). He has so much self-confidence - some might describe him as cocky, but I don't really object to cockiness, as long as it's not the smug kind. He doesn't let anyone be mean to him, or put him down, or put down the people he cares about - and he really knows how to defend himself, always coming up with a riposte that's both effective and elegant.
And he isn't petty. He prefers to distance himself from conflicts, and actually he's really good at mediating and smoothing things over, which is really useful because I tend to get myself into a lot of conflicts :/
Some people think of him as effeminate - he cares about clothes, for instance - but I think that's just silly. He's very masculine, thank you very much. And I think it's really nice that he pays attention to what he wears (though admittedly the poor guy has terrible fashion sense... I don't like to hear him criticized usually, but I do admit that he does not dress well) because I think one of the most irritating things about most boys is their utter cluelessness about clothes and the like, and I do not want to marry someone who might go out in clothes that don't match and not even notice. A lot of the wives I know are always taking care of the typically "feminine" side of things, like social relations and appearances, and the husbands are always utterly clueless about that stuff. I don't want to end up with someone like that. (Small side rant, why is it always the outgoing woman who marries the quiet man?? Why can't outgoing women marry outgoing men? What's the point of marrying someone who never talks??) And he doesn't care about looking tough and aggressive the way lots of boys try to - for instance, he openly likes to listen to romantic music, whereas a lot of boys would just be like "EWWW LOVEEEE!!" So yeah, very masculine, but lacking the masculine traits that I find annoying :)
There are also just so many little things that we share - we love sunsets, and romantic music, and we have an interest in fashion, and so on. And we share core beliefs - we both care about our image, we both want to make life happier for others, we don't think money is the important thing, we both believe that one of the most vital things in life is keeping your youth and innocence and enthusiasm, regardless of age. It honestly surprised me so much when I learned that he thought that way - it was as if he'd read my mind. I'd never heard anyone besides myself express that point of view.
It also doesn't hurt that he's terriblyyyyyyy handsome. I could talk for ages about his handsomeness. It was actually the first thing I noticed about him, though even then I sensed that he had a wonderful personality aside from his looks. And though by now it doesn't make any difference to my perception of him as a person, I still really like it. He has very dark hair that's kind of slick and wavy and messy and curls up on itself in the back, and dark eyes and just generally perfect features. (even other guys admit that he's handsome, so that gives you some idea.) A very straight nose and long eyelashes and all that. He's Latino (which makes another thing we share - our culture). He looks kind of different from the stereotypical mustache-bristling Latino guy, though, he has kind of delicate features and an innocent look. Also his face is so expressive, and it makes him look different according to his mood - sometimes he looks kind of intense and breathtaking (as in you end up thinking "oh dear oh dear he looks so good but also so um how shall I put it oh dearrrr this is very unsettling but also very fun"), sometimes he's thoughtful and adorable, and sometimes he just looks radiantly happy :) You can tell exactly what he's thinking through his face - you really can read him like an open book. And he really is super good-looking. The Greek statues (which are supposed to be the aesthetic ideal of human beauty and all that) had nothing on this guy.
Anyway, I quite enjoyed myself talking about him, it's one of my very favorite things to do because he makes me super happy - even when someone brings him up in a conversation, it makes me feel like an inner lightbulb has turned on inside me. We understand each other so well, and he has such a fun personality, and just who he is makes me really, really happy. I don't think there's any chance that we'll ever get together - he has a girlfriend already - but I'm glad he's in my life anyway. He is the most wonderful person on the planet :)
(July 28, 2024 - 10:35 pm)
that's nice :) and also "go out in clothes that don't match and not even notice" is totally me sorry haha we're still friends right ;) also I know I've told you this before (when I was talking about my brother loving Confessions of a Shopaholic), but my brother and I are like the total opposite of all the gender norms like he is super into fashion and fashion brands and like we'll just be eating at a restaurant (true story) and he'll be like "that's gucci!!!!!" and he puts so much time into his clothes and appearances like we used to be late to school because he needed (actually, he still does this) to gel his hair until it looked perfect (and even after he has to admire his reflection in every mirror we pass, which I can even describe how annoying that is, and not so much anymore but if anyone even mussed his hair a little bit, he used to literally scream then run to the bathroom to gel it again o_O) and he cares about clothes sooo much meanwhile I go to school in the same dirty, green rainjacket every day and aPpArEnTlY do not have any fashionable clothes according to my brother and parents (which I like my clothes very much thank you, hmph.) (No but actually thank you. Because my parents and relatives do most of my shopping for me :D) and when my brother was like "that's gucci!!" I was like (true story) "gucci has belts?!??" which then everyone was like "of course!" I thought it was just purses?? But apparently not. But idk I always find that probably more funny than I should about my brother and me :D
Also 'nother tangent, that sounds almost exactly like my squish o_O except my squish isn't Latino, but besides that, like everything from personality to appearance is spot on. Like my squish is just super extroverted and super positive and super supportive of everyone and he's always laughing/giggling (sometimes uncontrollably haha like once in class he was trying to answer the teacher's question except he just started giggling and he kept trying to answer it but he couldn't 'cuz he was laughing too hard like I'm laughing just thinking about it it was really funny :D) and telling jokes and he's just super nice and yess he definitely has a laid-back way of being in control that's such a good way to describe it but even when he's in control, he still makes sure everyone (*coughcoughme* *that's how quiet I am* *all my other classmates are loud*) gets a chance to speak and he's always looking to entertain the class and the teachers and he's like super great with putting himself up there and yelling encouragement and performing imaginary heartfelt saxaphone solos right when class is starting to make everyone laugh and he's really respectful and yeah :) it's just really nice to watch him like ~do his thing~ :)
(July 29, 2024 - 1:30 pm)
I used to like someone like this too, the only thing is I get disillusioned easily when I hear certain things; like they've made a lowkey racist comment, or cheated on their past girlfriend and at least for me that kinda dampens my admiration very quickly. (to be clear, it's not like I would have asked them out in the first place --- I don't really go out with people I idealise so much, it's like they're on a pedestal and I don't really feel the desire to try to climb my way up there. I prefer people who I am actually friends with, which is a whole 'nother issue).
Not saying this applies to your guys, just relaying an experience of my own.
(July 29, 2024 - 2:30 pm)
yeahh :/ sort of a tangent but idk if it's just me, but I feel like especially homophobic/racist/actually, also sexist comments are so encouraged now in like social media and especially school and stuff and it's just like ughh seriously?? Why?? Why is that necessary?? And especially why is that considered cool?? People are gay, okay, like can you please just stop making such a big deal out of it and implying that it's a bad thing to be and just like ughh. And it's also so annoying bc so many people are on social media these days that like all this is making its way out to little kids who don't know enough and who are forming opinions based on this!! Like literally I was working with some second graders and they were like making these comments that I know they got from social media bc even though I'm not on there, my brother is, and that's where he got all the same comments from :/ and I really don't get why also so many Asian people Ik (including my brother :/) are making all these horrible racist comments and everyone just laughs?? They're not even that funny?? And I mean even though it's other Asians doing it, whenever I hear them, it kinda hurts a bit, and like idk why is it my own community that's hurting us idk why that hurts it just kinda does. I feel like I'm too sensitive, idk...
(July 29, 2024 - 6:38 pm)
Ah, that sounds tough. I can certainly understand how you could get disillusioned. In some cases, it could be just that nobody's perfect - small things may not really reflect on a person's deeper character - but definitely things like cheating on a girlfriend are extremely wrong and after learning about those things, it's not really possible to keep feeling any sort of attraction to the person. Idk if you want my advice, but I would say that if it is just a small thing that isn't really a deep reflection of the person's character/morals, maybe you could tell yourself that the person may still have a deeper, inner kind of perfection, even if all the outer details aren't completely perfect? Idk if that makes sense or if it's even something you need to hear, but I thought I'd put it out there just in case. Anyway, it's interesting to see your take on this! I hope someday you can find someone satisfactory :)
(July 29, 2024 - 9:56 pm)
I agree, it is very nice :) and yeah, we're totally still friends! *gives you a huge optional hug* (actually I think of you as one my closest friends on the CB :D)
Oh yes, I remember that about your brother :) I liked the story about the Gucci belts! I actually didn't know Gucci has belts ... I mean, I like nice clothes and accessories, but I'm definitely not what you could call an expert on them. And your squish sounds so nice! I wanna meet him lol. I actually started laughing myself at the idea of how he was laughing when he was trying to answer the teacher. And I love the picture of him doing an imaginary saxophone solo (actually that reminds me of how once I saw someone holding one of those orange street cones and pretending it was a microphone or a trumpet or something, that was really funny too :) ) Anyway, he just seems really nice, and definitely similar to my crush. Maybe we should introduce them to each other, they'd probably be great friends :)
(July 29, 2024 - 9:48 pm)
awwww!!!! that's so sweet!!!!!!! :)
(July 29, 2024 - 11:15 am)
Okay so there's this guy (who is one of my best friends)is just so amazing and he likes a lot of the same stuff as me,like we're both *obsessed* with Star Wars and The Hobbit so we'll just go on like hour long discussions about"was this death in Star Wars necessary or not" and "Bilbo could've just done this instead of this" and that's something else I like about him, we could talk for hours and hours on end without ever falling into anything boring, and he's so sweet, and funny,and respectful,and he always laughs at my jokes (although he doesn't always get my pop culture references because he's very sheltered)and he can cook,and play guitar,and he's saving up money for an engine to fix his dads old truck,and on top of all that our little brothers are best friends,I'm on very close terms with his big sister,and our dads are best friends(also he was talking to my dad and my dad said and I quote"When the time comes you won't have any trouble finding a young lady,all you gotta do is pick her up in your truck,play her a song on your guitar,and cook her dinner and then it's endgame,endgame being good,and then he looked over at me and said"when the time comes" and I just ansnhdjsnbsjsjbsbzb!!!!!!)and one time we were playing taco cat goat cheese pizza(a slaps game)and I hit the cards first he and his sister hit at the same time and they then proceeded to start an argument about who lost and He DiDn'T tAkE hIs HaNd OfF oF mInE fOr LiKe FiVe MiNuTeS!!!!!
Anyways that's just my little mini rant about something that will probrably never happen because. A.my best friend likes himB.we might be different religionsC.if it went wrong it would wreck all of our family's friendships and last but not least he lives seven hours away from us in a different state.
P.S. I'm not proofreading this so there will be many a grammatical error,bye for now whippersnappers.
(July 29, 2024 - 9:54 pm)
omg i could talk for hours right now but i won't lol.
ok so this guy. i don't even know if i like him but basically the backstory is that back in january and the months before that....i did like him. and he's one of those guys who is unintentionally really charismatic, so a lot of people probably had a crush on him too. he's a mutual friend of mine--so literally my best friend's friend.
but what happened near the end of january was that he started dating my other friend. who knew i liked him. who told me she would never go for him, they were like brother and sister. they started dating right before a winter camp we were all going to--and neither of them, or any of my friends who knew, told me about this. so we got home and eventually i started to see a dynamic between the two of them, so i confronted her (nicely) and she told me.
so i had to play off the hurt i was feeling and pretty much pretend i didn't like him anymore, which, for a month or so, wasn't true. but after i had to watch them being gf and bf for a while, it faded. but recently, they broke up. and i feel terrible for him--mostly because she made a list of 'icks' about him and showed it to every girl in 8th grade. it's just such a petty thing to do.
but yesterday...i was talking to him and i literally don't know what happened. i just felt...weird. and the thing is, i don't want to like him again. it's going to end in disaster like last time. helppppp!!!
(July 30, 2024 - 8:12 am)
I'm so sorry :( some people are so immature!
(July 30, 2024 - 5:09 pm)
I met my current crush at a soccer camp a year ago and didn't like him then. This year we both went back and now I like him a lot and don't know if I'll ever see him again... He's taller than me which I like a lot because I'm tall for my age. He has blond hair and is smart, funny, athletic, and I know that I shouldn't like him because I like way too many boys but yeah...
I'll be back later
(July 30, 2024 - 12:53 pm)
so i was at an amusment park with one of my friends that I don't get to see a lot and we were swinging by home to pick my brother up for band and then bring her home and my twin went to go babysit my siblings and it was 100000000 degrees and she really wanted me to stay but on the long way back I would have selfishley nothing to read and so I left and now i feel horrible... why did i do that??????? does this make me a bad person and i emailed her saying i was so sorry and i am and i dont think shes really mad at me but now ill have to face my mom's wrath and i just feel so horrible-and it's worse knowing it would be bad either way, but at least i could be a decent person and i just want to cry and i regretregretregretregret and i feel so selfish and horrible. i know this is crush rants but you can really just vent about asnything here, this is a safe place! but i feel so badddddddd
(July 30, 2024 - 5:20 pm)