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submitted by Anonymous, age x, x
(October 15, 2020 - 1:43 pm)
(October 15, 2020 - 1:43 pm)
Yeah, that would be SUCH a coincidence...
(October 16, 2020 - 8:44 pm)
I know I shouldn't but I get kind of sad when my threads don't get much attention, which is basicly always, and that I feel that I still don't know anyone on here.
(October 16, 2020 - 7:52 pm)
i really don't like compliment threads because literally no one compliments me or other lesser-known CBers. Everyone compliments the more "well-known" CBers, which isn't fair at all. And when a lesser-known Cber does get complimented, it's something super general and worthless like "you make me happy" or "you're cool." Specific compliments mean so much more to us.
(October 16, 2020 - 8:54 pm)
Well, then it's my mission to spread a little love around here! Once I get to know everyone better, that is.
Anonymous Person, I feel like you think deeply about your surroundings and fairness. From what I just witnessed, you are a great person that really hopes that the world will someday be fair and meaningful!!
I'll post later on the compliment thread!!!
(October 16, 2020 - 11:22 pm)
I agree with Nightfall, and I'm sorry you feel this way. In fact, I remember the 1st time I saw a compliment thread, I felt really left out when I wasn't getting complimented. But if you aren't getting complimented, it's usually just because since you're newer or don't post as much, so you aren't one of the 1st CBers to pop into our heads. But that has nothing to do with how awesome you actually are! The best we can do is sincerely compliment as many people as possible. Sorry, this is kinda bad advice.
Oh, and I totally agree on the specific thing!
(October 17, 2020 - 7:49 am)
I find it helps to compliment someone first. I can't remember all fifty two + wonderful CBers but if you put a compliment up, I'll see you and be like, 'OH! I should give this person a compliment!'
(October 17, 2020 - 11:24 am)
@anonymous person: I know how you feel. The first compliment thread I saw, I only got two or three compliments, and that was after I had complimented others. It can make you feel bad, like there's a sick feeling in your stomach every time you see a thread full of people getting complimented and nothing for you.
All of us have been new. I'm still pretty new, I haven't even been here for a year yet. And so many new people drift away after a month or so. I don't want to make a connection with someone until they have been here for a while for fear that they will leave and I will lose a friend. It may be a bit backwards, but that's how I feel.
I also understand your feelings about specific and nonspecific comments. The best thing I can say about that (which isn't very good, to be honest) is that we don't know the lesser-known CBers (well, obviously.) Most of the time it's because they're new, or don't post a lot, and we don't know enough about them to compliment them. Just stick around, be reasonably active (although not overmuch, too much screen time is bad for you, wow, I sound like my mom), and wait until the next compliment thread comes along, and you'll probably see a few compliments for you. (:
I know this probably isn't exactly what you wanted to hear, but I just want you to know that we all know how you feel, we've all been in your shoes, and we can't wait to get to know you better.
Feeling left out is very understandable. Whenever a list is posted, a likely consequence is that someone may be left out with hurt feelings. It might be better to just compliment one or two people who stand out to you from time to time.
Admin
(October 17, 2020 - 2:52 pm)
It's anonymous person.
Thank you for your kind words! I am, however, not new to the CB in the slightest. I've been here for years, and yet people seem to forget about me
(October 17, 2020 - 9:32 pm)
Oh. Then I'm very sorry, because my so-called "pep talk" probably just made you feel a whole lot worse. I'm sorry for presuming your newness, and I'm sorry you haven't felt appreciated on the compliment thread(s). I don't really have much else to say except to tag on to the backs of other people's comments and say that people who post compliments are more likely to get them, since there are so many CBers and it's hard to keep track. Which isn't exactly going to make you feel much better, but it is true. And I'm kind of rambling now. Sorry.
(October 18, 2020 - 2:48 pm)
That must be hard. I recently got a compliment and I was surprised. Maybe if you revealed yourself we would notice you more? Sorry, just curious, if you don't want to that's fine, but if you revealed yourself I wouldn't judge you for getting bitter about never being complimented.
(October 22, 2020 - 4:42 pm)
the thing is, I'm not a new CBer! I've been here for years and yet everyone forgets about me for some reason....
(October 17, 2020 - 8:20 pm)
I will not forget you!
(January 29, 2021 - 1:23 pm)
i totally know how you feel! but blaming the popular people isnt fair. tell ya what. come check compliments for stars and regular people!, my new compliment thread! be happy and reach for the stars! (metaphorically speaking; they burned my hands once)
(December 4, 2020 - 8:54 am)
I feel you. I think just because i,m a new CBer does NOT mean I or any other lesser/ new CBer doe not mean they have special quality's or amazing in there own way.
(December 16, 2021 - 3:00 pm)
Hey! I literally felt the EXACT same way for my first YEAR on the CB. It seemed like everyone knew each other except for me. I was super nervous to make a thread because I was worried no one would comment on them. I would make up fake CBer names and post on my own threads to make them more popular. So don't worry, a lot of people feel the same way! <3 You should never feel nervous to post or talk to people. Feel free to message me on YWP if you ever want someone to talk to! <3 <3<3
(October 16, 2020 - 10:43 pm)