I need help!!
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I need help!!
I need help!! I am a vegetarian. This kid at school keeps bugging me about being one, almost every day. He says that humans were made to eat meat, and when I try to tell him to bug off or to keep his coments to himself, he doesn't stop. I believe that poor animals shouldn't be eaten, and that being a vegetarian is better for your health but I don't harrass him. I don't even like meat. He laughs when people say that they're vegan. I don't think it's for him to do this, and I need help. I am so hurt and mad, I think I'll explode. What should I say to him?
submitted by Lauren C., age 12, ca
(June 9, 2009 - 7:34 pm)
(June 9, 2009 - 7:34 pm)
God designed us to eat the animals. That's why they're there! (Not cats and dogs and horses, but stuff like cows, pigs , and fish.) if you want to be a vegetarian, that's absolutely fine! This kid probably has no life and is bored. He probably has no friends and has nothing else to do. I think you should pray about it. Since i'm a kid, I don't really know what to say, besides try to be his friend. This would even be hard for ME to try, but that's my answer. Good luck!
(June 10, 2009 - 9:42 am)
That is definitely wrong. No one should be teased for their choices. Tell a teacher, parent, or other adult if it gets really bad. Remember, it's FINE that you are who you are! Be proud of yourself. I hope this helps.
(June 10, 2009 - 11:10 am)
That kid sounds like a big brat. I'm not vegetarian, but as long as you are eating healthy, I don't think that there is anything wrong with it. My suggestion would be to just ignore this kid (I know, it's hard!) He probably enjoys seeing you get so mad, and that's the reason he does it. If it gets any worse, get a parent involved.
(June 10, 2009 - 11:53 am)
Have you talked to your parents about it? Or your principle and teachers? I'm a veggie too, and people used to tease me about it... unfortunately, I stopped going to regular school before I figure out how to stop them... Sorry I'm not much help!!
I'm on at the same time as Julia and Paige! Hi!
(June 10, 2009 - 12:01 pm)
Oh yah, and whatever you do, try not to get mad at him when he says stuff to you. Bullies are always propelled buy anger and sadness. If you shrug your shoulders and say, what's it to you (or something like that) eventually he will stop bugging you. He's just doing it cause he's bored, and wants something to entertain him. If what you do about it isn't exciting enough, he'll get bored with you. I hope that helped. :) Good luck!!!!
(June 10, 2009 - 12:04 pm)
First of all, while because I believe God designed us to eat meat - the Bible says so repeatedly - there's nothing wrong with deciding to avoid it. What this kid is doing is rude. But like someone said, don't get mad. That's what fuels it. When my brother and I were little (and still sometimes now :P) he bugged me for the sole purpose of making me mad. That's the first and foremost thing to remember.
After that, I'm afraid I don't have a foolproof method, never having been in a situation like that. I have a couple of guesses that might work, but don't bet on it. 1) When he does it, chuckle a little to yourself and shake your head ever so slightly. You know how when you're having a - we'll call it debate - with someone and their argument is completely illogical but they defend it fervently anyway? And you know you can tear their side of the argument to pieces in thirty seconds? That kind of condescending humor? Show that. But don't make it super obvious. 2) From what you've said about this kid, I don't think going to a parent or teacher will really help. Try anyway, though. 3) Ignore him completely and utterly. Act like he doesn't exist. The problem with this is that it's being rude right back at him, which is the wrong response. 4) You may be familiar with the Bible's advice in Proverbs 25:21-22. Here it is: "If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat, and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink, for you will heap burning coals on his head, and the LORD will reward you." I don't know your religion, but it's good advice. The whole turning the other cheek thing. It can make him see that he's wrong, too. 5) Remember, he's responsible for his actions, you for yours. Don't excuse yourself for doing something wrong with his action.
Well anywho, I hope you get this figured out. :P Sometimes people do really illogical, hurtful things. I'm sorry you got stuck in all that.
-EH
(June 10, 2009 - 3:07 pm)
Ditto, Cramer and Emily -- they're both exactly right. Ignore or avoid him, and yes, if it gets any worse, definitely tell a parent or teacher, because that is a form of harassment. Or try to get him to act sensibly, which he probably won't expect, and it will therefore put him off. Ask him why he says these things and what his opinions on vegetarianism are, and request that he state his thoughts calmly and logically. Who knows -- it's unlikely, but maybe you'll become acquaintances on cordial speaking terms.
Seeing as I don't actually support vegetarianism/veganism, I can see where this kid is coming from, but he's going about his debating the wrong way. Just try to stay calm with him and don't do anything that you might regret. And God bless you and the bully.
(June 10, 2009 - 3:59 pm)
Yeah, and what Mary, Cramer, and Emily all say is true, but I still don't think that God wants us to eat meat that was from places such as where animals were treated cruely (no, I don't mean the fact they were killed, but like trapped in small stalls, etc.).
(June 14, 2009 - 6:44 pm)
I believe you should definitely tell a teacher, guidance counselor, parent, or administrator. This kid is bullying, and that's against school rules. Another thing you could try is explaining why you are vegetarian, using the same reasons you gave us (better for your health, animals shouldn't be eaten, etc.). The bully might not understand why you enjoy being vegetarian, and if you calmly explain it, he might back off a little and see your point of view. In addition, next time he bothers you, look him straight in the eye and say calmly (but firmly), "I believe in vegetarianism, and absolutely nothing you say is going to make me change my life or beliefs. If you can't accept that, that's your problem." I wish you the best of luck in your situation. Don't let him get to you!
(June 11, 2009 - 8:37 am)
Hee hee... this kinda reminds me of that thing on AG, only, your answers actually get posted! :)
(June 11, 2009 - 12:24 pm)
Tellhim why you are a vegetariwn. And ask him why he thiks it's so funny. Most likely he's trying to make you mad. Just ignor the anger and talk calmly to him. He won't expect that, he probably thinks that you'll be really mad. That's what I would do if someone laughed at me for being a vegetarian. I don't like the idea of people eating poor litle animals. Maybe yu could show him something on youtube that is called meet your meat. It shows whar they do to animals to kill them so you can eat them. It's really evil of people to do that. That might help him understand why vegetarianss are vegetarians. If god (if he's real, I have no idea if he is or not) is okay with you eating animals. Is he Okay with people doing this to them so they can eat them?
(June 11, 2009 - 1:55 pm)
I think that it is absolutely fine to be a vegetarian. Even though we evolved to eat meat, monkeys are fruititarians, and nobody teases them! If this boy keeps bothering you, stay away from him, and if the teasing continues, talk to a teacher or other adult. Just remember, you are who you are, and no one can change that. Besides, this boy probably likes you! I've found in my 11 years on this earth that boys who tease girls like them.
Hope i helped!
(June 11, 2009 - 3:06 pm)
Actually, monkeys do eat meat.
My advice: Don't pay attention. All he wants to do is to make you mad. Either that, or he's xenophobic*. If it turns out he's xenophobic, then just ignore him. Ignore him, because if he doesn't see an effect in you, he'll stop and just accept it. Either that, or mail him (secretly) a book about vegetarians, but disguse it as "Why We Should Eat Meat." I don't recommend that, but if it's really getting bad...
(June 11, 2009 - 5:38 pm)
I'm on at the same time as ElfGirl... who's she?? :)
(June 11, 2009 - 3:14 pm)
I'm a veggie, and I've found that this works for me. Dont' go on and on about the poor animals, just come back with a snappy comeback. Or innocently say, "i don't like the blood and bullet combination," and walk away.
Whenever my dad makes some shticky comment about how vegetables can't fight back, I use the above comment. Hope this helps!
(June 11, 2009 - 5:50 pm)