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Mentoring. Advice giving.
Mentoring. Advice giving.
Does anyone else just absolutely love to mentor and give advie to kids younger than you? I love it!
I'm 15, and iIve messed and done a lot of things that probably most of you more than likely haven't done, and I think that's why I love giving advice to those younger. To save them from the heartache I've been through, and to help them live their lives as Christ wants!
Soo, does anyone need help or advice on something ? (that's appropriate for the Chatterbox). There's lots of people that give great advice on the CB. So ask away!
submitted by Vida, age 15
(December 1, 2014 - 3:07 pm)
(December 1, 2014 - 3:07 pm)
I really have only one close friend, and sometimes she is not so nice....
She can be a real Debbie Downer. She is just plain mean sometimes, and I always want to find another friend, but everybody is already taken and has a lot of friends already. What do I do?
(January 2, 2015 - 4:55 pm)
@ Friend Trouble: Being a friend and acting like one are two very different things. If this friend is being mean and is bringing you down, then you aren't obligated to her. She may just be going through a phase, but that's no excuse for treating you badly.
If you need to, start distancing yourself from her. I understand that
it's hard to go without friends, but sometimes we need to go through
times or spells where we need to be alone. But that's okay, trust me,
I've gone through a lot.
Or, if you really wanted to, you could try branching out toward other people, even if they already have a lot of friends. It may even seem they have a lot of friends, but not necessarily anyone they feel really close to. You may just be that person they need to become best friends with.
Either way, while friendship breakups may never be easy, it'll work out in the end. Just remember, if she really isn't treating you well or with respect, then while you may want to stay friends, distance is better than getting beaten up. You're worth so much more.
(January 2, 2015 - 8:45 pm)
I know what you feel like. I know this girl in my class, and I am trying to be friends with her, but she's so... difficult.
Here's some advice: YOU CAN NEVER HAVE TOO MANY FRIENDS. That applies for other girls, too. Try to become friends with the nicest group of girls.
If you want to tell your friend how you feel, try writing a letter. It's always so much easier to write it down on paper than to say it to her face. If she gets mad at you for telling her that, she's not worth it as a friend. I know it's hard. When it comes to friendship, I've been through everything -- I've had my fair share of lost friends.
If you can't make any friendships elsewhere, try being a loner. No, I should rephrase that. Let me tell you: I am a very social person. I wasn't making any friends at school, so I decided to be a 'loner.' IT WAS SO GOOD! I felt so free! I made my own decisions, didn't care about what people thought of me, and I could drift from group to group, making friends with everyone.
MOST IMPORTANT THING: If you have a positive outlook, you will feel SO good. If you try to be a sunshiny person, you will be friends with everyone. And remember: you may hit some tough times in life, but God is always there for you.
(January 7, 2015 - 8:56 pm)
Hello!
I need advice on a couple of things.
1) I basically can't read in school anymore. I am a really fast reader (up to seven pages a minute, no skimming. Sometimes faster. I'll read a 500-page book in an hour) and people always stare at me. They'll quiz me about what happened on a page to make sure I'm not skimming, and it really stinks!
2) I spend the first two periods of school on Friday in 8th-grade classrooms because I am academically advanced. A few weeks ago we did a lab outside of the sixth-grade hallway, and so half of the sixth grade saw me there.
(January 2, 2015 - 10:05 pm)
1. I KNOW!! I'm a fast reader too, and before I started homeschool, the kids in my class did that to me. They COULD'NT believe me. I would say to ignore them, and keep on reading. •_• ;)
(January 3, 2015 - 2:24 pm)
1) Say to them "I'm glad you are amazed by my talent, but it gets on my nerves when you do that to me." Hopefully they will realize they should stop.
2) Don't be embarrassed that you're smart. If people ask, tell them exactly what you were doing. I'm sure they'll understand.
(January 3, 2015 - 5:31 pm)
I can't say that! Oh boy, if I ever said that...
People hate me because I'm smart, relativly athletic, and a good leader. If I ever said that directly...
I hate sayng things about myself. Whenever I do things in school were I have to describe myself I normally use adjectives like unique or creatine. I've never said prettty. Or smart. The biggest compliment I gave myself was bright, and I still feel super awkward.
(January 12, 2015 - 6:03 am)
So I basically have one friend. She and I are together like all the time, neither of us have any other really close friends at school. She's not in Student Council (the only extracurricular in the school, and the one I'm in). She's also not in my class, which means that I only see her 4 times per day: locker break, lunch, lunch recess, and afterschool. And recently Student Council has had a lot of meetings during lunch and lunch recess and a lot of activities during locker break and afterschool. The long and short of it is, I don't see her a lot now. I feel like I'm kind of neglecting her, and I don't know if she understands and if there's anything I can do. Help!
(January 3, 2015 - 1:32 am)
You could try asking her to hang out with you on weekends?
(January 3, 2015 - 9:55 am)
@Air
You should invite your friend over to your house. Maybe she will appreciate that you're not neglecting her. You can also have fun together and bond a little bit more. Your break at school is only like 4-5 minutes long (my break is the same). You could also encourage her to do Student Council too.
–Quicksilver
(January 3, 2015 - 10:19 am)
Write a note and quickly slip it into her locker. Or get her contacts so you can text, email, Snapchat, whatever. Or her address. Send her a letter.
(January 3, 2015 - 5:34 pm)
OR, ask her to join the CB!!!!
(January 3, 2015 - 6:21 pm)
Thanks guys!
(January 3, 2015 - 7:52 pm)
@ Do You Need To Know?
Dat's me!!! Everytime I read at what I think is a normal pace, everyone is like, "You did NOT just read that." I'll say I did and they'll quiz me!! But I just want to read!!!
(January 5, 2015 - 7:45 pm)
Gosh, Savvy, when I replied to that I just knew it was u. xD
(January 5, 2015 - 11:28 pm)