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Moral Support for Chatterboxers! Or MSC, however you'd like it.
See, I know that we all have different talents and different experiences. I'm also sure that tons if us have different problems that we need to talk about. There's no need to apologize for ranting – ranting is good for you. And if you don't have problems, try to encourage someone else. We have lots of different age groups, people with different hobbies and experiences. I think that together, we could improve and encourage each other.
Or is this a really lame idea..? I can feel this thread dropping slowly to the bottom.
submitted by FantasyQuill
(July 31, 2013 - 11:35 pm)
(July 31, 2013 - 11:35 pm)
Thanks! Acutally, my friend who tried to talk it over with him in the hallway (we'll call them "M" for the time being) talked to him in the orchestra room and he's not mad at M or I, but at my friend who offended him. And he decided he couldn't sit with us at lunch because he was "Making a statement." But he's offcially coming back to the lunch table on Monday, so things are going to be all right. He's more of friends with M and I than anyone else, so I'm glad it's over, because every lunch day felt overly empty since he decided he needed to "Make a statement."
(October 13, 2013 - 5:21 pm)
So, I'm back. Not that I seem to mean anything to anyone these days, so probably no one will care. Whatever.
Sorry I've been gone, but I've had kind of a hard life lately. If anyone cares, I got into a fight with a few of my friends about something really stupid.
Sorry that I just came on this thread and start venting. It probably really annoys a lot of people.
(October 10, 2013 - 10:50 am)
Hi doctor. I actually did notice you were gone. Glad you're back. I'm so sorry about your friend! Maybe you should tell her you like her.
(October 10, 2013 - 2:46 pm)
I tried to, and then she said "hmm...ok" and now she's pretty much disappeared now thanks to us living on different continents and her not checking her email and stuff like that.
(October 13, 2013 - 10:22 pm)
@ the docter
It's okay. That's what this thread is for!
Wow, sounds like you've been having a really hard time lately. You know, I really don't now what to say about all of that, since I've never really been in situations like that.
I don't know what to do. See, we have exactly four computors in the house right now. Two are laptops, two are desktops. I wanted to do NaNoWriMo this November, but someone *coughcoughmysisterscoughcough* is always using the computors. Except one. That one no one likes because it's really slow and has a really big screen, which is open to the room. So, no privacy. Plus, my mom is always using it, so it's out of the question. So really only three computors. One is a my older sister's and she always has to use it for homework. Plus, she's thinking of doing NaNo too.
Theb, the two other computors my other sisters are always using. So I'm not sure how I'm going to find a computor I can depend on during Novemeber.
We had had huge argument about it. My sisters got upset because they thought I was going to 'tell one of my older siblings or a parent' and leave it up to them to decide. Which is really unfair, because 'cuz I'm the yougest my parents'll favor me and make them give me a computor. I wasn't going to do that anyway. But, what else should I do? I don't want to have another agrument like that one. It wasn't fun, a lot of yeling and 'I'm not listening, la la la'.
Any suggestions?
(October 10, 2013 - 4:47 pm)
Of course we care about you, doctor! And no one will get mad at you for that. They'll be glad you told.
(October 10, 2013 - 5:31 pm)
So. I think the only thing you can do for your friend is try to understand why she feels so bad. Is she being bullied? Is she afraid of something? Does she have low self-esteem about something? If no one knows or understands her, she feels utterly alone. You need to be there for her. I can't stress the importance of this enough. You need to try to understand her- really understand her, understand what makes her do everything she does. If you don't know why she's feeling so bad, you won't be able to help her. I know she's probably going to have to go to a therapist. But therapists are (at least in my opnion) not very trustable. She won't know her counselor or therapist but she knows you already. If she can trust you, then you can help her out. Right now, you have the greatest chance of helping her than anyone else. I think Red knows more about this than I do, so I shall drag him over.
Um... there's really not too much I can say on this. I mean, I know how freaky it is when a friend feels bad and what I do is just try to... (oh this sounds stupid) hug them and tell them that it's okay and I'm here for them. If they want to talk, I listen to them. If they want to cry, I let them. If they just want to stop acting like they're stronger than they really are, I let them relax and I watch over them. The best thing to do is try to show them that life doesnt' just have bad things in it. I try to share their burden. So, I guess, it kind of works, so you should try it too? I don't really know. I'm sorry. I'm not much help. I'm really sorry. I hope your friend gets better soon.
(October 13, 2013 - 7:19 pm)
I'm anorexic, and before you guys say "oh Maggie don't do that to yourself" I wish I could stop, but as soon as I think seriously about actually eating normally I panic. The thought of gaining weight is actually somewhat terrifying. Really, my brain is kind of divided. There is a possibility that I might start taking medication soon, so that's good.
(October 10, 2013 - 5:54 pm)
I just want to ask, what's terrifying about gaining weight?
(October 10, 2013 - 9:05 pm)
If I gain weight, I will get fat. That is truly terrifying for me. It's kind of part of being anorexic, and I didn't really understand it until I actually became anorexic.
(October 10, 2013 - 10:04 pm)
Not always. I mean, look at Demi Lovato. Is she stick thin? No. Is she pretty? Yes. Anorexia won't solve any problems because it creates many health problems and, honestly, a little body weight never hurt anyone. I'm not overweight, just a healthy weight. I'm curvy, and sometimes when I yawn, I look like a have a double chin. I'm fine with that. I think you need to be more than just unhealthily thin, you just need to be healthy, because when you're healthy, you'll feel better and have more confidence.
(October 12, 2013 - 8:16 am)
Demi Lovato used to be anorexic so I don't think she's really a prime example. And for me, considering how unattractive I am, yeah that extra weight will hurt.
(October 12, 2013 - 10:54 am)
Why do appearances matter to you so much? You look like what you look like, but that doesn't change who you are. You could be only three feet tall and I wouldn't care because what you look like is most certainly not who you are. From what I can tell from your writing, you're an intelligent pre-teen girl who has low self-esteem yet you still give imaginative comments that I like to read. I don't know what you look like, and I don't care. I think you're an amazing person with a ton of courage and how much you weigh or what color your hair is won't make a difference. Our bodies are simply vessels that contain our minds and our minds make up who we are. So what if you're not what you think would be a pretty girl? Beauty isn't important in life. Being healthy, working hard, having fun, and acting smart- that's important. Besides, appearances are subjective anyway. Some people think being skinny is pretty and some people think being normal or chubby is pretty. I know you think you are unattractive, but I'm sure some other people think you are very pretty. And, if for some strange reason they don't, so what? You have a great mind, and that's all that really matters. You sound like you have some really good friends, so enjoy your time with them, okay? They like you for who you are- Maggie the Whovian. So, please, I want you to remain Maggie. I don't want you to get so worked up in your appearance that you try to change who you are. I really, really like you as you are and I don't want you to have to try to change yourself to fit the opinions of "what's attractive". The most shallow people I know are completely obssessed with appearances and that's what makes them so shallow- if you just look at what's on the outside, you'll miss the actual person within. It's like going into a bookstore and buying, say, Twilight, becuase the cover is prettier than an old copy of The Lord of the Rings. One of them is clearly a better book but the cover has nothing to do with it. You're judging yourself based on your cover, but you don't need to. You have so many amazing qualities that really make me want to meet you, and talk to you, and find out what kind of ice cream you like, and be your friend. You are an amazing person, you just need to have confidence in yourself and let it shine. I know you have confidence. You can do it. I believe in you. I believe you can stop worrying about your cover and let your pretty pages shine through. When I read the words you write, I picture a girl in my head and this girl I picture is a very pretty one becuase her words are. She's strong, and smart, and she wants to be friends. I want to reach my hand out to this girl and be friends with her. I want to tell her, in person, that she's awesome. I can hear her words, and I know, I know, if I ever meet this girl someday, in real life, I'm going to find her incredibly beautiful because her mind is, and that's what matters.
(October 12, 2013 - 11:17 pm)
Thank you so much. I can't put into words how much this means to me.
(October 13, 2013 - 10:40 am)
Ruby, that was the best thing I have ever read.
(October 16, 2013 - 9:07 pm)