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My Grandpa has Alzheimers. He is entering a certain stage of hospice. My parents didn't tell me which. I haven't even processed it. I am a Jew. I believe in God. So why would God do this to me? It's so so hard on my Grandma and Dad too. Why must this happen? Help.
We're so sorry, Juniper.
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submitted by Princess Juniper, age she/her, Nowhere
(May 21, 2021 - 7:00 pm)
(May 21, 2021 - 7:00 pm)
Oh no, that's horrible. *hugs* I agree with what Lumi said, and I hope he does okay <3 we're all here for you! *sends guinea pigs bc they make everything better*
(May 23, 2021 - 7:04 pm)
Update. I overheard my mom talking to her mom (my other grandma) about the shiva. A shiva is a jewish mourning funeral and for my family a reception. According to my mom he might die within weeks or months. Thanks y'all for the support.
(May 24, 2021 - 6:51 am)
I'm not sure if this helps, and I don't want to sound all preachy or annoying, but I also think that these kind of adversities leave you better off.
I know it's definitely difficult in the moment, and I'm not by any means saying it is or will be easy, but I think you shouldn't see it as punishment or God being unfair. It's life, and God never said life on earth would be perfect and easy for us, just because we believe in him. We all have our dark moments and shouldn't blame anyone, including God, for them.
Things will get better in time. Even if they don't return to normal, or you have to wait for the next life, it will get better in the end. Of course, I don't mean to demean the pain or loss you may be experiencing at all, but it's also important to keep that in mind. I'm not sure if non-messianic Jews have the same core belief, but from my learnings, the more you struggle and persevere now, the more you will be rewarded later. Everyone will be reunited, without ailments, after everything's over, right?
Maybe that's too long-term, but I find it often helps me through the situation to remember this. I hope you and your grandfather/family's situations improve!
(May 24, 2021 - 9:40 am)
Really sorry to hear that. I lost my grandpa a couple years ago to preleukemia and he didn't always remember us when he was nearing the end. I remember being with him while he was lying on the couch at my aunt's place in Virginia before we left and thinking "this is gonna be the last time I ever get to say goodbye to him" and it was. A lot of people don't even get anything near that semblance of finality. It's not easy, and it won't get easier for a long time. Things probably won't make sense for a while and it's not your fault when they don't. Stay strong.
But after a while, you will be able to remember the good times you had together and smile about them.
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(May 25, 2021 - 8:35 pm)