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Dear CBers of
Dear CBers of all ages,
There’s something important you should know. A lot of the times we get quite excited about old CBers, and we enjoy the old times and experiences we had with them. But I fear that sometimes, younger CBers feel a bit useless, and possibly left out. As an older CBer who has been on here for some time, I have observed this from a distance but kept my mouth shut. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t be joyful when old CBers come back, or happy when they are celebrated or brought up. But I would just say to be careful not to ignore the newer CBers. They are just as important as anyone else. Sure they get attention when first introduced, but after a while they are just...there.
I hope to continue to share many great past memories with all of you, and celebrate new memories to come. I’m sorry if I’m not very good with words.
Sincerely,
A CBer who loves you all
submitted by Somewhat of a PSA, age Secret, Here
(December 9, 2017 - 4:23 pm)
(December 9, 2017 - 4:23 pm)
I don't know about this, I'm not that new, (I've been here over a year) but I still don't get mentioned that much. Honestly, I feel like some of the newer CBers get mentioned more than I do. But I don't really mind. Yeah, when tons of people are getting mentioned and I'm not I do wish I was, but then I close the tab and don't really mind anymore. Like a lot of people have said, if you post more you'll get noticed more. Yeah, maybe you're posting 24/7 right now and still don't get mentioned, but think about how long you've been doing this. People aren't going to remember you in an instant. I don't really think it's a problem, or if it is I don't think it's a very big one.
(December 11, 2017 - 12:37 pm)
Well, I did kinda feel that way at first, but now I've been here for a while, and I really don't feel like I don't get mentioned. I don't really think this is much of an issue, though. When you're new anywhere, you aren't very well-known or mentioned a lot. And then as you get to know people and socialize more, you become much more well-known, and all that. I think it's kind of natural, and even then, everyone always welcomes the new CBers, I've noticed. Like when the new CBer posts their first thing like hi, I'm ____ and I'm new here, or whatever, and everyone usually pops into the thread to say hi, and tell the new person some about the CB and what the abbreviations like AE and OC and CB, etc, etc mean.
(December 11, 2017 - 1:29 pm)
Yeahhh,
I try to post cool stuff, but I kinda just get ignored....sometimes....*sigh*.
(December 11, 2017 - 4:41 pm)
Mmm...this is a harsh topic. People have left because they feel forgotten. Like Indigo.
I feel like people should not have to be forced to post more. True, if you post a lot, you get noticed much more, and your name sticks in people's minds. But it's also a quality/quantity thing. I don't post on every single thread in my sight, because many just don't interest me or involve me. I post on the threads that do interest or involve me, or that I feel would be worthwhile. And yeah, I'm not a super "popular" CBer; I don't get complimented/done as ___ much, but if the alternative is to basically explode in people's faces I don't really feel the need to. Also, I don't have unlimited computer time. I only get 30 minutes each day except on weekends, and sometimes I have to rush to catch up on all the CB things.
Also, yes, I do get very excited when old CBers come back, because they're my friends. Sometimes I just don't have those connections with newer CBers. I have more meaningful relationships with people that I've known for a long time and been through a lot with.
And like people have said, (including me, in the past) there are so many CBers that it's hard to keep track sometimes and mention them all. People will always be left out. And it's hard to compliment people or do them as whatever the subject is when you don't know them very well. I don't know...it's just something that is, and always will be. Life isn't fair.
(December 12, 2017 - 10:39 am)
I'm kind of new, and I agree with this.
(December 12, 2017 - 10:43 am)
I guess I'm not a super popular CBer, but I sort of brought it upon myself... I've been on for a while, but disappear randomly for weeks or months at a time and don't post super often. When I was new I was disappointed when i didn't get mentioned. A lot of the time I get mentioned now, sometimes not, but that doesn't bother me anymore.
If you feel like you're getting overlooked on a CBers as __ thread, you don't have ignore it and feel disappointed. You are more than welcome to comment something along the lines of "This is awesome! What do you think I am?" Or do other CBers, and they might do you in return. It's not that the rest of us are ignoring you on purpose, we just might not think of you right away.
To the more well-known CBers, I know nobody is trying to leave others out, but when you're doing a compliment or CBers as __ thread I would encourage you to flip through the CB and do the people who have posted recently instead of just doing who comes to mind. Sometimes it's hard to do someone who is new and you don't know very well, but I'm sure we can think of something to say about them.
(December 12, 2017 - 1:20 pm)
Thank you all for responding. I really value your opinions. I’m sorry if what I said offended you. This is merely what I have observed for a while. Again, thank you so much for participating. You all get a free virtual cookie. ;)
(December 14, 2017 - 9:20 pm)
Hey guys.
I'm not around here much anymore (duh) but I saw this thread while passing through and had to speak up since this caused a lot of issues when I was on here a lot:
Do not let people's CB "status" get in the way of anything.
Sure, someone might get complimented on a compliment thread more than you do, but that's okay. I was never one of the big people on here, so I felt the exact same way that y'all did for awhile. Instead of getting sad or offended or anything, I just made sure to include every person I possibly could on compliment/imagine/whatever threads.
Instead of feeling bad, I made sure other people felt good.
Please please please don't let CB time be a dividing factor among you guys. You're a sweet, special community and by focusing on popularity and status, you are not using the CB for a good purpose.
If you ever feel uncomplimented or worthless or anything, message me on Nano (@epicpenzz I think for YWP) or talk to someone, because no one on here (or anywhere for that matter) is worthless.
-SE
(December 17, 2017 - 8:47 pm)
I agree with what everyone has said here. That might seem contradictory-- people have said that they agree and disagree with the original post-- but I can see both sides of the issue!
When you're a newer CBer or one that doesn't post a lot, yeah, you're less likely to be mentioned. It kinda stinks at first. I can't tell you when it'll get better, because quite honestly, I don't know when it will. But it will, I promise. I've been on the CB about a year now, and for the first few months, I was pretty much unknown. I didn't post that much either. I wasn't really mentioned on threads or anything, and I wasn't guessed in SIs either. (Ah, how that has changed!) Now, I'm usually mentioned in the first 10 people on "CBers as ___" threads and my name is guessed to be everyone in SIs. It's because I've stayed with the CB. It's because I love it here, and I post a lot, and I comment and carry on conversations and make friends here.
If you ever feel unwanted, or unnnoticed, or unneeded in the craziness, just post on a compliment thread. That's my advice, honestly. Because people remember. People remember you complimented them. They remember you were kind to them. And they won't forget that. So maybe you're not being mentioned now. Just give it time. You will be. Because we love everyone here-- the new, the middle, the old. We love them all. <3
~Starseeker
(December 18, 2017 - 3:16 pm)
But the thing is I realise that if an older Cber doesn´t post as often as do for a while evryone begins to freak out as if the CBer just left them.When I went away for like 2 months nobody seemed to have even mentioned me at all.Where as when balletandbows went away for alwhile everyone was making these LOST threads or booksybears went away for like 2 weeks LOST,LOST,LOST.and then when an older cber comes back everyone makes a huge fuss but when I came back nobody even reponeded....I as a ¨younger¨ CBer (even though I joined in Janurary of 2017) I feel left out.I am not saying that people don´t acknowlege me at all.I have met some very kind thoughtful people who put with my 4th grade stubborn self.And I know every CBer deep down has a CBer that they feel is annoying and I know that for a lot people that person is me.But just because a newer CBer doesn´t know inside jokes or how to write a good Ski Lodge doesn´t mean that you can´t include them.It might just be the opening to a new friend.And you should not judge a CBer by their expierence on here weather they joined a day ago and are posting like nuts or they have been here for 3 years and they have nice posting schuele we are all family and Families dont have a popularity hiarkie.
(December 20, 2017 - 7:13 am)