Dear CBers of
Chatterbox: Chirp at Cricket
Dear CBers of
Dear CBers of all ages,
There’s something important you should know. A lot of the times we get quite excited about old CBers, and we enjoy the old times and experiences we had with them. But I fear that sometimes, younger CBers feel a bit useless, and possibly left out. As an older CBer who has been on here for some time, I have observed this from a distance but kept my mouth shut. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t be joyful when old CBers come back, or happy when they are celebrated or brought up. But I would just say to be careful not to ignore the newer CBers. They are just as important as anyone else. Sure they get attention when first introduced, but after a while they are just...there.
I hope to continue to share many great past memories with all of you, and celebrate new memories to come. I’m sorry if I’m not very good with words.
Sincerely,
A CBer who loves you all
(December 9, 2017 - 4:23 pm)
Yes, I've noticed this to some extent. Even among just the ones who are currently on there are the people who get mentioned in every compliment or CBers as ___ thread, and the ones (like me) that aren't as well known. I suppose we just need to post more and stick around, but sometimes it's discouraging.
(December 9, 2017 - 6:13 pm)
Yeah, I completely agree. I’ve been here for about a year and a half or so, and still, mostly the older CBers that have been here for over 2 or 3 years always get mentioned. It makes a lot of us feel left out, including me. Just because someone posts more often doesn’t necessarily mean that they should get more attention/recognition.
(December 9, 2017 - 7:45 pm)
I actually don't think it is much of a problem. I'm not well known myself, and I'm rarely mentioned on CBers as _ threads/compliment threads. But that's just because I don't post very often. It is difficult to remember every single CBer, and in general easier to compliment and describe familiar ones. Of course, it is important to respond and acknowledge when newer CBers do post! But as newer CBers post more frequently, they become more well known. And when they take part in CBer as _ threads and compliment threads, they get mentioned more as well.
(December 9, 2017 - 7:55 pm)
i... guess i sort of feel that but it's not that bad, me and Vyolette both joined very recently and i don't think either of us felt that.
(December 9, 2017 - 10:18 pm)
Did you? I remember Vyolette joining, but I thought you'd been here longe--oh, right! I remember now. That's interesting. Maybe it's just the way you two go about it? You're friendly and open and you pop up a lot. It makes you seem more familiar, and soon you are.
(December 17, 2017 - 11:38 am)
Honestly, I disagree.
In about a month I'll have been on the CB for three years. In the midst of my second year (past my first CBversary, not at my second) I was, well, pretty big around here. In all the compliment threads, on everyone's lists, all that jazz. And as I started to post less, I started to get mentioned less. I drifted away, so did my mentions. I drifted back, they've returned a bit, but honestly? Not much.
Three years makes me one of the longest constant CBers on the CB currently. There are others who have been around for a little more or a little less time than I have and are a lot more active. Good for them! People remember them because they post around, they're there, they're visible. So they get mentioned. Me? I don't post around as much. So people start to forget me. I brought that onto myself.
New new CBers, of course, won't get a lot of mentions at first! That has to be obvious. Nobody really knows a lot about them. If they stay on the CB, we learn a bit more, and they start to get mentioned in threads and such. If they don't stay, then they don't get mentioned. And I think that's how it works, and it's a good system, and an expected one.
So yeah. I don't think the problem is time. Now, the problem is activity. So if you want to get mentioned? Throw yourself out there.
(December 9, 2017 - 10:37 pm)
But there’s CBers Like Aspen and Catsclaw that post often but don’t get mentioned a lot.
(December 10, 2017 - 7:45 am)
I don't know, but I have seen those two get mentioned. And when they aren't mentioned, they don't seem to be afraid to ask. I saw on the CBer's names thread, Aspen started doing a lot of people and got mentioned in return. And Catsclaw said that they didn't feel like that happened that much to them. Aspen and Catsclaw are starting to get mentioned more and more, I think they are in the between phase of not getting mentioned and getting mentioned all the time. (Of course I don't want to speak for them).
I guess I still just feel that how much you are mentioned mostly depends on how much others know about you. The more you post, the more people remember and mention you. For example, since I rarely post, people don't know me and so I don't get mentioned often. That's entirely on me.
I know it is hard to continue posting when you feel alone, but that is part of what people have to go through here. It's hard, though, so if you have any suggestions to make new CBers feel more welcome, that'd be really useful!
By the way, in the @ things, you don't have to type my full name. Just @Mango is fine, I know my name is kind of cluncky and seeing it like that makes it look too long.
(December 10, 2017 - 11:23 am)
(December 10, 2017 - 11:23 am)
Thank you Somewhat. This is a good reminder. I do agree. Let me tell you a story.
When I first joined the CB, I was welcomed by all. Everyone was glad to have me. But I was new. I hadn't posted a lot, and it was sometimes hard to remember that I was there. I didn't often get mentioned on compliment threads or CBers as _____ threads, or really any threads at all, and when I did I was always happy and surprised. Not many people knew me, because I was new. And that wasn't their fault. They hadn't done anything wrong. But I often felt left out. I wouldn't say much, but there was one instance where I got a tad upset on a compliment thread when 'lesser mentioned' CBers started being listed, and I wasn't on the list. I commented, expressing my feelings (and looking back at that comment, it was very selfish and ungrateful. I apologize for that) and the other CBers answered. This happened quite awhile after I had joined. I was still not a 'popular' CBer. By popular I don't mean more loved, I just mean who comes to mind when you start to try to think of CBers. Part if this may have been because I would often disappear randomly only to come back weeks later (I still do this, actually). But slowly, I was noticed and mentioned more. And then a funny thing started happening recently. I would go on the 'CBers as' thread's and the compliment threads, and scroll down the list and suddenly I would see my name. Now, I seem to be much more noticed, and my name is on a lot of lists. I had become a Middlie. Guess what? I've been on for almost two years now. I didn't do anything special. I just posted.
I think this happens to everyone new. It's just a part of joining! And though we need to appreciate the new CBers and cherish them just as much as the oldies, it's sometimes hard to remember everyone. So, @Newbies and Newer-bies: If and when you feel this way, don't be afraid to speak up and ask for a compliment or whatever it is. If we leave you out, we don't mean to, and I'm sure we'd all like to know so that we can do better.
Thank you for putting into words what so many of us have felt.
(December 9, 2017 - 11:16 pm)
Personally, I disagree.
Most of it depends on whether the new CBer posts a lot. Thats how, when I first started, I got mentioned pretty regularly in the CBrs as _ posts. Well, the first month or two, I was a nobody. I posted once a in a while, and never actually went on Inkwell or made any of my own threads, just commenting here and there. But, like GreenMango said, the more you post, the more people remember and mention you.
And it worked! Once I started being more myself and hanging around the pages of Cricket, I was better known and was frequently mentioned on posts. I was a somebody.
I must disagree with you also on the old CBrs getting most, if not all, the attention when they come back. I came back maybe a month or two ago, and not many people rejoiced of my coming back. Of course, I only left three? Two months? But still.
I think that all of the CBrs are very, very special and I love y'all very much! <3
(December 10, 2017 - 6:31 pm)
I just wanted to make sure that you knew that I was very, very excited when you came back. :)
(December 11, 2017 - 10:09 pm)
Okay, sorry, to the person who wrote "And Vyolette too", what do you mean? Though I guess that's not very important....I still want to know the answer.
Everyone knows I only joined just recently, but I speak for myself, Catsclaw, when I say I do not agree with this post. I don't feel left out at all. People talk to me, and I talk to them. I am mentioned in other posts and such, and I mention everyone else. Sure a lot of "Older" CBers are coming back, who don't know me, but I want to get to know them, and them to know me. I don't have to wave a red flag over my head to be noticed; I just post or comment, and it happens.
Ugh. Sorry, I've had a long day, and this post is just coming out as a bunch of mumbo-jumbo. Does anyone else get what I mean? Some new CBers may not be noticed very often when they sit on the sidelines, and they may eventually dissapear into a hazy fog. If they let themselves be known, let it be known that they want to be incuded, then they are. That's one of the best parts of the CB, in my opinion. Then again, you may not understand a word I'm saying, and this post may sound like the work of a sleep-deprived person (which it techinically is), totally un-interprepable. You decide.
(December 10, 2017 - 7:36 pm)
I definitely get what you're saying, and I agree with you.
(December 11, 2017 - 10:11 pm)
...I somewhat agree with this. I get what everyone's saying about posting a lot, but as a CBer who's been here for about a year and posts quite often, I understand the feeling of still not feeling included. I'm not saying excluded in general; but like everyone's been saying, on CBers as ___ threads or things like that. I think sometimes you've just got to remember that at a certain point, you will be one of those people who everyone thinks of when they think of the CB. I guess just... try to bear with it, you know? But I totally get where this is coming from and so I think people who do get mentioned on every thread might want to not go on here and say this doesn't happen because it does and I think we've just got to accept it. Eventually, though, everyone will get to that point where they're one of the most known CBers. Have patience! I'm working on it too. <3
(December 11, 2017 - 12:44 am)