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So I was looking back at old threads on CaC, and I found one of these threads from awhile back. All of us here on the CB have problems and many of us share them openly. But sometimes it is easier to share things without even your alias to hold yourself accountable to.
Here is a place to consolidate advise and the asking of it. You don't have to go anonymously, but you may if you want to. There are no rules other than those that apply to the CB in general. Keep in mind this is not a SI-- the point is not to figure who other people are but to give them real advice. Be polite and try to be as concise and as helpful as you can.
I am having trouble starting conversations with people I don't know very well. Do you have any tips for making friends with people, even if they are in cliques? (not quite sure how to spell that). Also, what are some good conversation starters?
Ask a question. This shows that you're interested in the other person. Try a question that has to do with whatever activity you're gathered for. Do you play a musical instrument? How did you meet so-and-so? How long have you lived in this town? Do you like all this snow?
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(April 10, 2016 - 1:59 pm)
This is Arin. I was A Nonny Mouse. Ruby, I'm going to email you about this, if you don't mind, because I feel like my behavior was a bit ridiculous; to call you out here, of all places? Childish.
(April 18, 2016 - 5:54 pm)
I understand now. From the way you worded it, it sounded like this person who threatened you was some kinda monster that didn't regret what they said and that they were always mean/would always be mean. Correct me if Im wrong, but I'm pretty sure that's not true.
Please don't take this as an insult, Arin, I'm just saying that with just a little more info, we wouldn't have jumped to conclusions so quickly. I'm not saying everyone posted something wrong, though.
So let's just forgive now, OK?
(April 19, 2016 - 7:15 am)
Well, I still...kind of view him as bad. Y'all can hate me for that, but I'll be scared of him for the rest of my life. End of story. This was a terrible idea, to bring it up on a platform he uses. I'll be leaving the CB.
(April 19, 2016 - 12:46 pm)
The situation was more complicated than that. I still think of myself as a monster for that and other things that have happened, but that's not pertinent to here and now.
Arin, please don't leave on my account. It's your CB as much as it is mine. Please continue to enjoy it. I'm going to carry on here, but I'll keep my distance from you. Please continue to use it as you like.
(April 19, 2016 - 11:02 pm)
I'll never truly hate you for this. I don't hate easily. You of all people should know that. I'll try to keep my distance from you, okay?
(April 20, 2016 - 9:22 am)
So, as Ruby said, it's not CB-appropriate. However, I'd like to explain why I feel the need to apologize.
- I outed him to a group of people about his struggle with mental illness
- he's apologized in the past but I didn't accept it because I was too bitter
- making mountains out of molehills (getting mad at him for not getting home at a certain time ?? idk what was up with me)
- other stuff probably that I can't remember
(April 19, 2016 - 8:32 am)
Oh. It's okay, nobody will hate you. Sorry if I caused more upset-ness with this.
Anyway, I'm not sure if you're new here or not, Arin, but if you are, then welcome to the CB!
(April 20, 2016 - 9:53 pm)
I've been around consistently for about a year less than Ruby, but thank you anyway.
(April 21, 2016 - 5:49 am)