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LGBTQ+ thread!
LGBTQ+ thread!
If you are LGBTQ+ or know someone who is, post about it here! It will be interesting to know more people's stories!
submitted by Climate Girl , age She/they, Here
(October 20, 2024 - 2:11 pm)
(October 20, 2024 - 2:11 pm)
hi, im LE, or Elly. im agender, which for me means i really don't care about pronouns, just how im perceived. i am bi, pan, somewhere in that ballpark, and so is my partner. im assigned male at birth, not that that matters, you know, and ive only just begun to label myself because i sort of disliked the concept but my GSA club made me see the value of understanding yourself in that specific way.
shameless self promotion:
i write the terminal on inkwell, which started as a sci-fi text adventure, and one year and about 110,000 words later has become a lot of things, including the reason im fully out of the closet now, in public and stuff. (excepting my church, that will never happen.) spooky queer horror! with aliens and evil space gods!
come play if you like, but i wanna hear about you too!
CAPTCHA says hazda. which i guess means "do i hazda let you post." yes, you do, little computer creature.
(October 20, 2024 - 8:58 pm)
top!
(October 20, 2024 - 8:58 pm)
(October 20, 2024 - 10:13 pm)
Well, I'm not LGBTQ+, but I am interested in some people's experiences. Deep question: What are pronouns? To me, they don't serve much use. I'm just Annabelle. I don't need to be she, or he, or they. Just say Annabelle. Names are better than pronouns- there is less confusion and people getting offended.
(October 21, 2024 - 4:14 pm)
they simplify the English language! it's easier to say, this is LE, they're my friend and im gonna hang out with them than, you know, this is LE, LE is my friend, im gonna hang out with LE. people just generally don't speak that way, in the English language at least.
(October 21, 2024 - 6:35 pm)
I guess.
(October 21, 2024 - 7:35 pm)
I will say, having different pronouns for every gender instead of just one pronoun for everyone indeed doesn't make sense; that being said, since this is the way it works, well, it makes more sense to add pronouns than to make everyone use a single pronoun they may not like. also, that means that using the right pronouns is really important, since a lot of stuff is attached to them in general. also, pronouns can be fun! i mean, they can be literally anything. that being said, in real life, most of the time people are stuck with he, she, or sometimes they, if anyone even changes what they use at all :/
(October 21, 2024 - 6:54 pm)
Hi! So pronouns are actually a type of word, similarly to adverbs or nouns - for example "they" is a pronoun, but so is "you"! Many people like to specify their personal pronouns so another person knows how to refer to them, similarly to how they'd specify their name. I hope that makes sense :)
(October 22, 2024 - 6:55 pm)
I have heard of people who choose not to use any pronouns. The book Camp QUILTBAG has a character who just uses a name. As LE said though it can be difficult not to use pronouns; I struggled with that just writing this short post. In the end it's just whatever you're most comfortable with!
(November 19, 2024 - 5:32 pm)
*cue ramblings* honestly, I hate being LGBTQ+. nothing against others in the community ofc, but sometimes it just really sucks to be a part of it. I'm not sure why I'm posting this...
I'm trans, I guess. Or nonbinary or something. I'm *mostly* okay with saying that on the CB but in real life I'm very closeted, my family isn't super accepting, and I'm too terrified of social interaction to do anything. It kind of sucks. I wish being trans wasn't a big deal, I wish I didn't keep thinking what is wrong with me, I wish I could just live my life in peace as myself yk? Like there's so much pressure to a) be cis, but b) explain it to people who don't understand—or who are trying to understand. And that's great, I'm happy some people want to have constructive conversations about gender and try to understand things, but I just can't deal with it sometimes. And I already have so much internalized transphobia. Sometimes life just really hurts haha.
literally can I just curl up in a hole and read books please lol. and never talk to people again. or be reborn as someone else. someone with a lot of books...
(October 21, 2024 - 7:01 pm)
i feel this so hard. i don't want to be queer either.
(October 21, 2024 - 11:55 pm)
I also do want to say though that the way the CB has changed in recent years is amazing. I mean I haven't been around for more than a few years but everyone is so supportive and a lot more open to new ideas and the queer community. it makes me hopeful. so thank you guys :)
and thus conclude my ramblings
(October 21, 2024 - 7:03 pm)
Well, hey, I'm Celine, I should go eat dinner now but I wanted to respond to this first. For clarification, I finally decided on she/her pronouns; I feel a little weird when I hear them, but they don't feel wrong, so I'm good with them. :)
I'm probably lesbian or bi---currently leaning towards being bisexual haha but first I've got to figure out what a crush is anyways lol. I mentioned to my parents yesterday that I'm in my school's lgbtq+ club and while on one hand I'm glad that I got that out, on the other, that wasn't really that awesome for me and I started semi-panicking in the bathroom! It's not that they're not supportive of lgbtq+ (and I know that they would be supportive of me <3 but *cough* I'm totally closeted btw... and hey, the closet is stuffy, but it's also comfy and anyways there's a light here so I can read in peace :) ), but they're not totally comfortable with it since it's not really what they're used to so they were immediately like "but what are you doing in a lgbtq+ club?? Why would you be in a lgbtq+ club?? What interests you about this club???" and haha I'm not just gonna be like "hey guys so the thing is I'm maybe bisexual but at least queer and actually that's the real reason I joined this club" so instead I was like, "they had cupcakes!" (which, the cupcakes WERE pretty cool though) and "the people are friendly!" (which, they are) and then they were like, "who exactly is in this club anyway?? Are there other kids your age in this club???" and yeah that was sorta stressful I feel like they've got me found out and I do NOT want to explain how I've been hiding that I actually know that lgbtq+ people exist and I know a LOT about lgbtq+ people in comparison to what I knew two years ago and they're going to feel hurt about me hiding stuff from them since they're my parents and have to look out for me (which Ig is valid)... and yeah, I don't want to have that conversation.
And on top of all the other things happening yesterday, I did not want to do that. Things were stressful! Yay!
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ahem.
Anyways, dumplings won't eat themselves! I attended my first lgbtq+ club meeting ever today because I was too scared to go to the meetings last year! Love y'all, bye lizards!
(October 21, 2024 - 7:51 pm)
I felt the same way about she/her pronouns before I learned that using she/ they pronouns was a thing.
(October 28, 2024 - 3:59 pm)
I'm cis for sure and I feel really comfortable with my pronouns (she/her) but I also might be bi (though I've never really felt attracted to boys, so maybe les?) But I'm honestly super afraid because if I do ever say anything, I'd definitely be closeted and not accepted so I'm trying to kind of make myself think I'm straight. (Or am I just being confused? Idk)
(October 21, 2024 - 10:57 pm)