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Thread for Virtual Hugs and Compliments~
Just a thread for when you need a virtual hug or compliment from a rough day or something like that. Feel free to talk about it or not at all and just ask for a cup of tea and a hug and some encouragement.
Here's a virtual hug for everyone who needs one right now <33
submitted by Moon Wolf, age lunars, A Celestial Sky
(September 26, 2024 - 6:47 pm)
(September 26, 2024 - 6:47 pm)
aww pangolin, I hope things get better! you're really strong and I promise you'll get through this. *tons of hugs*
(October 8, 2024 - 10:09 pm)
*very belated ginormous virtual hugs* <33 you're amazing and you got this!!!
(October 15, 2024 - 10:12 pm)
could I have a virtual hug? I feel kind of mixed-up and lonely and like I'm a compass who just got all its directions scrambled up :/
also, huge virtual hugs to everyone who posted here, and to everyone who might read this post now or in the future. you're amazing, and wonderful, and valuable!!
(October 15, 2024 - 7:43 pm)
*big bear hugs* I get that :/ you're an amazing person, and you'll get through this!! For now, maybe take a deep breath and do something you love---maybe read a romance novel or write or something. Idk, I'm always here to talk if you need it (btw, this goes for everyone on this thread, and everyone here in general <3). Love you/p :)
(October 15, 2024 - 10:16 pm)
aww thanks Celine *optional hugs for you too* basically social stuff is just tricky sometimes. how do I know if a person is really a nice person? how do I know if someone really wants to hang out with me, as opposed to just being polite? am I managing to seem nice, or just awkward? so many questions... the funny thing is, I don't have any of those concerns here on the CB. It's so much simpler here. Anyway, thanks again - love you too /p :)
(October 20, 2024 - 12:49 pm)
if someone could give me a hug rn that would be nice
(October 30, 2024 - 5:22 pm)
*BIG HUGS* <33 if you ever need anything, we're always here for you!!! Love you (/p)
(October 31, 2024 - 2:25 am)
Hullo all might I have a virtual hug please?
Idk, social stuff is not going very well atm. there are two girls who seem nice and who actually make an effort to spend time/talk to me, but one has disappeared - idk what happened to her - and the other one is way older and will be graduating at the end of the school year. still, it's really nice that they seem nice. but so many people in my life have turned out to be uninterested in having any sort of a relationship with me, that i can't really get my hopes up at this point. as for everyone else, well, it's not like anyone was mean, but they're just not interested in being with me - yk how sometimes you just get that vibe. i was thinking that maybe i was the problem, but my parents say no, it's just that people here don't know how to make friends. they're probably right. but what idk is why don't they want to make friends??
also allow me to inquire if the following scenario seems at all polite. A is a boy I've known since classes started; he's rather funny, and has heretofore seemed quite willing to talk to me. he even mentioned his girlfriend to me, and told me all about his struggles with shopping. so after class we were walking down the hall together and the following occured:
Me: So are you going to [insert campus event name]?
A (stops walking as soon as I started talking and gives a heavy sigh, and replies in a very exasperated tone): NO. I am NOT. *says no more*
Me (surprised): Okay, see you. (starts walking down the hall, with A staying right where he is because obviously he does not wish to even continue walking down the hall with me)
then there is G, a very cute and very intelligent and very fun boy, who is in one of my classes; i've kind of started liking him :/ and he doesn't seem actively opposed to me, but he definitely hasn't showed any interest. it's been months now, he could perfectly well have begun a conversation or even, given that he's the outgoing sort, asked me out on a date or something. which he has not done. so...
meanwhile (honestly at this point you can see the funny side) there is IA, a Mexican boy, who seems like he'd make a wonderful friend. therefore, I have been trying to be friendly to him. however, he has begun to studiously avoid me and look rather alarmed whenever i've talked to him, which, especially given that Mexican culture does have some frankly stupid boy-girl norms, leads one to suspect that he thinks I might like him romantically. this is terrible. here is G, going blithely along without the faintest clue that I've been spending all my time with him in a state of nervous excitement, at the same time as IA, who I could never ever like romantically, is in a state of nervous worry because he thinks i've fallen in love with him. how did this get so messed up. besides i can't possibly walk up to him and say "don't worry I would never fall in love with you" because that just defies all social protocols, and I rEaLlY can't walk up to G and say "I have fallen in love with you and let's go on a date" because - well, for obvious reasons. at this point the best course of action seems to be to just leave things alone. why is social stuff not simpler? why can't people just say what they think and be done with it? why can't everyone just be nice?
anyway it's all very inconsequential, but it does make one feel kind of lonely.
(November 8, 2024 - 7:57 pm)
i'm kind of short on time right now, but i'll be back with a longer reply later! i just wanted to quickly say that i've found public school can be extremely isolating, especially when you don't have social media, and it's of course nothing wrong with you but just...society in general, ig? but you definitely aren't alone, even if you feel like it sometimes <33 *ALL the hugs* (and like i said, i'll type up a longer reply when i have more time!!)
(November 9, 2024 - 2:18 pm)
thanks so much pangolin *hugs you back* <33 i'd love to read your longer reply, but no pressure! everything you said is so helpful, thank you smmm <3
(November 13, 2024 - 8:54 pm)
*hugs*
I hope you find some friends soon! I'd offer advice if I could, but I'm not good at offering advice and the social situation at my school is probably different.
(November 14, 2024 - 8:51 pm)
*virtual hugs galore*
first off, yes, social stuff is confusing and hard and I'm so sorry you have to deal with that <33 I do feel like if we all just sat down and talked about stuff, maybe things wouldn't have to be so complicated, but people are complicated in the first place, and everyone has different ways of dealing with things, so I think the best thing to do ofc is just to go forth with good intentions (boom! mxmtoon lyric drop :D) and let people know that you're always open to talk... basically, don't self-isolate like I did the all of last year :)
I will say that it's uninevitable that things don't work out, but it still sucks---especially when it's all happening at the same time. But please know that it's not you. It's just the way life goes, and you can be a perfectly nice and good and lovely person (which you are, btw :) ) and people still won't want to spend time with you. There can be so many different reasons, and it's not your fault, at all. And, as always, we love you and your family loves you and you're going to get through this :) <33
As for why people might not want to make friends... maybe they feel like they've already found their group, and they don't want to try someone new---which is probably a bit close-minded on their part, but is also, I think, a perfectly valid feeling (and I'd be happy to elaborate on that if you'd like :) ). Maybe they're really shy and introverted. Maybe they have different interests than you do, and while they do genuinely like you, they don't want to spend that much time with you because they don't relate that much with you. That happens to me; there are people at school that I think are genuinely nice, but I don't interact much with them because they like social media, and I like reading and other things, and we don't really have much to talk about. I will reiterate that this isn't your fault. People have different interests, and you can't connect with everybody, so just be you, and you'll find people who are similar to you.
Ofc, I have no idea what your situation is. Just remember that people have a lot going on inside of them that we don't really see, and it's not (usually) anyone's fault. :)
As for the situation with A, I do think he was rude and shouldn't've done that. It could be that he was just having a bad day, and he didn't show it until just that moment, and it had nothing to do with you. Although, besides that, I really have no idea why he would do something like that. How is he now? Hopefully he's better <3
I am currently sleepy because I've had a busy day, so apologies if anything sounds weird :)
Hello! It is the next day now! I have been writing this response all through the night and today---no, jk, we went on a field trip and it was fun and had a soccer game and it was fun but *gasp!* I got a handball! Noo! The shamee! :0 no, but actually, I haven't had a handball in three years... *sigh* and then because of that, the other team got a penalty kick and scored... overall the game was fun though :D welp, but I have to do all my homework for two days now, so I should make this quick...
And as for G, you sound like you're the outgoing sort too (I think?), but you haven't asked him on a date either, so maybe he's feeling the same way you do?? I think the best way to find out is to ask, but ofc, that's nervewracking and stuff and do whatever you feel comfortable with <3 but if you do ask, that's great!!
andd I have to finish this later. Bye!! :)))
(November 19, 2024 - 7:52 pm)
can I have a hug? I'm kind of exhausted.
and it's been a really long week/year honestly. and we have a schoolwide assembly on a potentially triggering topic tomorrow. and a 6k erg test at crew tomorrow. and robotics competition is in a week and we don't really have a robot and i'm supposed to be in charge. and i've only been able to go to two school soccer practices over the past three weeks because i'm too busy but i also can't keep skipping if i want to be on varsity. and i'm overcommitted to like three separate extracurriculars every day. and school. and so much dysphoria. and everything just keeps on going and going and just for a second i want a break idk.
so yeah! lol i'm just tired but i want a hug :)
(November 19, 2024 - 10:51 pm)
*HUGS* just wondering if you have a winter break coming up soon? But, good luck with everything and I will come back later to respond hopefully before tomorrow <33
(November 20, 2024 - 10:24 am)
HEX!!!! First of all, I'm really sorry that it's been a really long week/year for you, and I know I always say this, but I really do hope that things get better soon <33 for the schoolwide assembly, could you perhaps ask to be exempt, and explain that it's might be potentially triggering for you (or would that conversation itself be triggering)? Or maybe tell your friends and they can ask for you (I can't speak for them, but I really don't think they'll mind <33)?? Or, if not, distract you during the assembly maybe?? Idk. But hope it goes okay <3 and good luck with the rowing (I think) test!! And the robotics competition, although... yeah, that might be pretty hard. :/ but please don't lose sleep over making a robot! You shouldn't be the only one leading, even if you are in charge. Other people should be contributing too, and stepping up when you need them to. It's a team effort! I feel bad saying this, but please take care of yourself. Your health should be first priority, and if you don't think you guys can get in a robot on time and take care of yourselves, maybe don't do the competition?? It's okay if you guys can't make the cut---that feels insensitive, but it's not the end of the world, ofc (although idk about how your teammates would feel). Or maybeee you should take a break from the team??? Irdk. :/ but *hugs* and hope things work out.
and ahaha same with soccer practices... and then for like the one practice I could make (which was today), I was late because I had to make up some work that I missed and my teacher didn't believe me when I told her the practice time... but ya know, at least I was able to make the work up because of that! But yeah, skipping practices really isn't great :/ I would say maybe let the coaches know about your situation and ask if there's anything you can do to make up for it and possibly still have a chance at varsity? I'm not sure how much that would help though... but in all honesty, I would say that it would probably be better for you not to be on varsity. As you said, you're over-committed, and I really think you have to make some cuts. :/
I should go do my homework now, but *hugs* and the best of luck with everything <33
(November 20, 2024 - 9:11 pm)