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HELP MEEEE!!!
HELP MEEEE!!!
AHHHH! I need the CBer's help!! There is this really annoying boy who I sit next to in band (not by choice!), I'll call him Frank. Well, I had to sit next to Frank last year, too, because we're in the same section (flutes). Last year he annoyed me, but this year, I just can't stand him!! He is constantly poking my and kicking me. I tell him to keep his hands off of me and that I am dead serious, but he just keeps touching me. He never moves over, even though the three other people in the row with me and I have no room. He teases me all the time! He is really negavitve and puts me down when I make mistakes. He keeps poking buttons on my flute while I'm trying to play and just won't leave me alone, no matter what I do! I really don't want to seem like a tattletale, but I've really been thinking about talking to my band director. I don't know what to do! Help me! 
I would tell the band director just what you've said here, Emma. Good luck!
Old Cricket
submitted by Emma O, age 13, OR
(December 15, 2009 - 10:28 pm)
(December 15, 2009 - 10:28 pm)
Okay, it seems like your in a pretty bad situation here. So the first thing is to completely ignore him. He is not there. You are blind and deaf only to him. Make that clear. If he sees he's not getting to you, he may stop. But it also seems like he might be bored, so he might not stop. In that case, I would take Old Cricket's advice and tell the band director. There's no way you can have fun and play when someone's being really annoying. Best of luck to you!
~Leaf
(December 16, 2009 - 9:58 am)
to the top!!! (Sorry Emma, I moved it)
(December 16, 2009 - 10:00 am)
Real quick, I want to clarify one thing I realized I didn't make clear in my first post. He kicks me, but never really hard enough to hurt much, just that it hurts a little and it's annoying. Not that that really makes it better, but I just don't want it to sound worse than it is. Thanks, Old Cricket and Leaf! I think I will. (Oh, and I've tried ignoring him many times.) Today, he just randomly knocked all of a girl's music off of her stand and it went all over the floor. The upper chair flutes and I were telling him to help her, but he just looked at us and shrugged and wouldn't do anything! He's really mean! We had a sub today so I couldn't talk to him about it, but I think I will tomorrow if our director is back.
(December 16, 2009 - 8:16 pm)
First, you should try as hard as you can to ignore him. If he still bothers you after ignoring him for a few days, you really need to tell your band director. The main reasons boys do things like this are either that he likes you or wants to get a reaction out of you.
(December 16, 2009 - 8:07 pm)
Sounds like this Frank person has a cru-ush. Who else would go through all this trouble just to spite you? JK. But seriously, next time he bothers you, just say "I know you love me." He'll be so embarrassed he'll stop! Or it might just ruin your life. You know what? Don't listen to me. Ignore me. Bye. Sorry Em
(December 16, 2009 - 10:24 pm)
Talk to your band director, definitely. Be rational, cool, explain your side thoroughly. Act mature and logical, and not only will he crack down on this kid, but his opinion of you will skyrocket.
Cheers,
lav
(December 16, 2009 - 11:33 pm)
My best advice is whack him over the head with your flute. Heehee, sorry. But for some serious advice. I definetly agree with Leaf: IGNORE him. He is a speck of dust. A flea. When he annoys you, say something like, "What is the buzzing noise?" or "There seems to be some pesky insect flying around. Let me ask the band director for a fly swatter." Make no eye contact. I also agree that you should tell your band director. Good luck!!
(December 17, 2009 - 10:27 am)
Because I am childish and immature, and like Adina should not be listened to ;), I say take MJ's first advice and hit him over the head with your flute. And then do what everyone else said, because trust me, they are far more responsible and logical than anything I can suggest. *joking grin*
*serious now* I hope that he stops being so annoying or your problem is solved in some way... like Cara and Adina said he probably either likes you or is just a jerk. There are people like them, I guess you just hafta say to yourself--- and them too if you wanna be smart--- "Well, when I'm queen of the world someday I'm going to lock you in a dungeon of doom, Frank" *flips hair*
Like so.
Ignore me now.
(December 17, 2009 - 4:03 pm)
NO. You should NEVER whack anyone with a flute. That could dent the flute.
(December 18, 2009 - 9:57 pm)
Seconded! And you know how annoying it is to have to get it repaired? Trust me, I do :)
(December 24, 2009 - 4:25 pm)
I totally third that!! Although I would probably end up whacking him anyway.
(December 27, 2009 - 9:18 pm)
I've dealt with this kind of person before, and trust me, they DO NOT stop if you ignore them. My mom agrees. See, all they do is try harder to get your attention, and they will continue even with punishment. And my brother is exactly like this, so I should know. He doesn't pay attention to me OR my reaction, he just does it for fun, and my advice is to ask the director to move at least two spaces away.
(December 17, 2009 - 4:28 pm)
I think you are probably right.
(December 24, 2009 - 4:40 pm)
Emma O, there is a boy like this in my Religion class. He is always trying to sit by me, and he pokes me with his pencil, kicks my chair, bugs me, calls me teachers pet, because, well, I am, etc. I hate to tell you, but it is clear to me that he has an enormous crush on you. Boys act really immature when they like you. Girls are just mean to the boys they like so they don't think we like them. I know you don't wanna hear this, but it's probably the truth. I'm very sorry, but that's exactly what it is, I bet.
(December 17, 2009 - 11:11 am)
If he's making you feel unsecure you really should tell the band director. My mom says it's ok to tattletale as long as it's really important.
(December 17, 2009 - 12:37 pm)