OOOOOOOH. Friendy I feel you. My parent's arn't homophobic. But they constantly tell me "I don't know what I am yet" "I'm to young to know" I feel you. I haven't told them yet, so I can't really say anything along the lines of advice..but I feel you

I have almost exactly the same story! I'm lesbian, and my family is Christian, so I've got the same conflict as you. My parents still, like, love me and all that, but we really chafe when it comes to me and LGBTQIA+ topics. Until recently, they had no idea I was lesbian, but a little while ago my mom dug through my private messages with a friend who I was out to and found a conversation I had had with that friend.

When I first started questioning, it took me a while to figure out what my attraction was and which words really described me. If I tried to talk to my parents during that time they would have just been a pain. Even after I was pretty sure, it was honestly just easier for my parents not to know. If I had the choice, they still wouldn't know. I don't need everyone to know who I am for me to know who I am, and now that they know they don't accept me anyways. My plans were to keep them oblivious until I was in at least college, and even then I might have waited. They think I'm too young to know who I am, and any time we try to discuss that's all they tell me.

As for coming out to my friends, I came out to most of them under the understanding that my parents weren't aware and that they weren't to discuss my sexuality with other people who I hadn't told.

Good luck!

Please know that there are many Christians and churches that welcome and support all people, regardless of orientation.

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There's a charity dedicated to helping LGBTQIA+ youth. They are professionals, I think, so maybe they can help you.

ty guys so much for your help!!!!! <3 <3 <3