Chatterbox: Down to Earth

I just found out today that my friend's mom died of cancer that she's been battling since fourth grade. She was doing so well down in Mexico, and then she just kicked the bucket, all of a sudden. I need help on what to say to my friend when she comes back to school. I don't want to be all in her face if she doesn't want to talk about it. I also don't want to ignore her so she thinks I don't care. (This kid can also be really annoying sometimes, too)

I wouldn't wait until she comes back to school, Lauren. I suggest you send her a note right away. (If you are close friends, you can ask your parents if they thing you should phone her.) It will help your friend to know that you are thinking about her and that she can call you if she wants to. Your note can just say something like: I was so sorry to hear about your mother. I am thinking of you all and keeping you in my prayers. [if you are a person who prays]. Please call me if there's anything I can do to help you. 

Then when she comes back to school, you can just smile and say you're glad to see her and just be there for her. When a loved one dies, the support of friends can be a great comfort.

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