Hellpppp.Bef

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Hellpppp.Bef

Hellpppp.

Before you ask, yes, I'm 11. Don't question it.

But I recently broke things of with my s/o...

help? 

submitted by Anon...
(March 7, 2021 - 8:35 pm)

back to the Down to Earth

Umm.. Excuse me, what's an s\o?

submitted by Kitty Cat, Kitty City
(March 7, 2021 - 9:19 pm)

Significant other. 

Bf/Gf.

Boy-friend/Girl-friend if you must. 

Valentine's. 

You get the jist of it, correct?  

submitted by Anon.
(March 7, 2021 - 11:57 pm)

Oh, significent other. Why did you break it off? And seem sad about it now? Could you tell me if there was a reason you broke it off? Or... were you just unhappy, I DON'T KNOW I'VE ONLY EVER HAD FICTINOL CHARACTER CRUSHES so I have no idea how to help.

 

Harley just said pgyep

PG rated movie? 

submitted by Kitty Cat, Gotham City
(March 8, 2021 - 9:06 am)

@Kitty Cat, I personally think that unless Anon is okay with telling the internet, why they broke it off isn't really our business. Not trying to be rude at all! Just saying that since it's private information, it's okay if they don't share it.

I personally think 11 is a little too young, but if parents/guardians are okay with it, then it's fine. But don't think a young relationship will last through middle/high school.

Take my opinion with a grain of salt, I've never been in a relationship. 

submitted by Cynthia M, age 12, USofA
(March 8, 2021 - 9:35 am)

I meant to say that If she\He\They felt uncomfortable they didn't have to but I forgot, Thanks! He\She\They doesn't have to, but it always helps me to tell someone, I was just giving an option. NOT SAYING TELL ME JUST STATING A FACT! :3

submitted by Kitty Cat, Gotham City
(March 8, 2021 - 12:11 pm)

Was it you or them who broke up, or was it mutual? I need a few more details to know how to help.

Now excuse me while I go cry because Benji K doesn't know who I am. (It's still going on. I figured out that he lives in Spain and it's still going on.) 

submitted by Twilight
(March 8, 2021 - 10:42 am)

All right, first of all.

I don't know the specifics of your case, but you're eleven.

Therefore, if you aren't ready for/want to be in a romantic relationship, that's normal.

Heck, I'm 12 and I'm still certainly not ready to be in a romantic relationship. (My brother asked me the other day if I was going to get married. What? I don't know! He said that he asked because sixth grade is when people start dating. Call me immature but I still find kissing a reason to cover my eyes and giggle nervously.)

I hope you did it politely, but if you didn't, *cough* been there done that. (see my reply to Cranberry's post on the Confessions thread).

For me, I couldn't look the person in question in the face for months. And I spent those months feeling guilty and undeserving and rather depressed. I couldn't enjoy anything, it was horrible.

So I want you to know: you have NO REASON to feel guilty for telling someone you aren't ready for or aren't interested in a romantic relationship. You have NO REASON to feel guilty for saying, "I'm sorry, I thought I was ready for this but I really wasn't" or "I'm sorry, I do like you, but I don't feel ready for this right now" or "I don't want to be in a romantic relationship anymore. Can we just be friends for now?"

If you did yell, "I'm NOT your GIRLFRIEND/SIGNIFICANT OTHER/BOYFRIEND/WHATEVER!" Well. *hugs* I'll just tell you that it gets better eventually. 

If you did do that, or something like that, write a note and give it to them, or if you're feeling brave, write a script and tell it to them. Say, "Hi, person. I want to apologize for what happened. I think you're a really nice person, and I want to be your friend. I do like you,* but right now I'm (not ready/can't handle/don't want to be/whatever your feelings are) to be in a romantic relationship  with anyone. I'm here if you need to talk about this more. Your friend, Anon..."

*If you don't, obviously don't write this. Maybe something like, "I don't like you in that way anymore, and I'm not (insert feeling) to be in a romantic relationship with anyone anymore."

So... I hope your situation gets sorted out, and I want you to know that you don't need to feel guilty about saying no if you don't feel comfortable. It's your feelings, your body, your self, and you get to choose what happens to them and what you feel comfortable with. If anyone tells you otherwise, they're wrong. <33 *hugs*

submitted by Anon, because, age there, are some confessions here
(March 8, 2021 - 10:48 am)

Hey thank you for the advice! 

Yeah it ummmm the s/o who broke things off..still sad about it...?

But yeah, maybe 11 is a little bit too young- but stIlLl argh life is confusing >:/  

submitted by Anon.
(March 8, 2021 - 11:48 am)

Hi Anon!

Let me know if you need any specific advice, I had a boyfriend for almost a year during my Junior year of high school so I guess you could say I'm pretty knowledgeable when it comes to that kind of stuff.

This goes for everyone else too! 

submitted by Sarah W. , age 17
(March 8, 2021 - 6:10 pm)