Chatterbox: Down to Earth

The insecurity insecurity

So this is a topic I've been thinking about for a while. A lot of our culture's energy is spent on boosting people's self-esteem, etc. Don't get me wrong, I think it's great that we're addressing the problem of low self esteem and insecurities, but there's a problem I've noticed in the way we do it (actually, I bet there's a lot of problems. But there's a specific one I want to adress.). I guess it's not really a problem in the method I've noticed, but more problematic results stemming from a problem in the method. Part of what I want to discuss is what the problem in the method is. 

But anyway, on to the real topic. So yeah, there's all this ego boosting. "You shouldn't think you're fat, you're perfect just the way you are! Don't say you're stupid, you're smart!" Anyone getting my point? Being insecure is bad, and you shouldn't do it. Saying things like like is exactly what causes insecurities. Or rather, it's one of many causes. But you know what? Insecurities still sometimes happens. To be perfectly honest, my biggest insecurity is the fact that I have insecurities. Because, whenever I, oh I dunno, get self-conscious about a pimple or whatever, I'm failing. I'm failing myself by not being the stong confident person I'm supposed to be, I'm failing my sisters and mother by not being the strong confident person they raised me to be, and I'm failing womankind by succumbing to the pressure that makes me care about unimportant things. That's a huge problem to me. I realize I'm not actually failing 50% of the world's population, but there's still that worry. It's another layer of  stress, and I think there should be a way to fix it.

So has anyone else noticed/experienced this? Any thoughts on where it comes from more specifically. Any thoughts on how to fix or help with it? Any other thoughts on it?