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To CBers who are depressed, have had depression, or were close to someone with depression- can I ask for advice?
I would say for sure that my friend S is depressed. She's talked to me multiple times about how she goes home and just eats and watches TV and cries, how she hasn't had a good day in a long time (in those exact words), how she doesn't like weekends or breaks because being around friends is the only time when she's sort of happy, how she sometimes just all of a sudden gets this overwhelming wave of tiredness and sadness, and is always feeling anxious, insecure, and guilty about everything, etc. She's even apologized to me and another friend and said something like 'I'm sorry I'm so depressed, I try to hide it at school... To anyone, is there any way I can help her? I've recommended that she talk to her parents about getting antidepressants, but in her situation, I don't think her parents would take her seriously. Any advice would be much appreciated.
Thanks for reading!
~Bluebird
submitted by Bluebird
(December 20, 2017 - 9:39 pm)
(December 20, 2017 - 9:39 pm)
I have definetly gone through a very similar expeirence....
Does she have any pets?
If she does make plans to see her and you can help her take care of it.
Are there any hobbies she has ?
Maybe go and do those with her.
And ya know sometimes people just need to be talked tell that she will be happy if she lets herself just be happy do somethibg you enjoy doing,or call a long distant relative,she could see a councler or therapist.
But I am really not good at making people happy
***Hana
(December 21, 2017 - 6:18 am)
Thank you for the advice. She does have a dog, so... Also, I see her at volleyball practice, which she likes, but unfortunately, she's in a boot right now so she can't really play. Thank you again <3
(December 21, 2017 - 11:58 am)
I'd rather remain anonymous if you don't mind.
Anyway, I have been diagnosed with depression here are a few things that have helped me that might help her.
-Listen. Just listen to her. A lot of times, all someone with depression needs is to be listened to and respected.
-Don't force her to talk about it. If she wants to talk, than that's great! but sometimes it's good to just forget about for a while and have fun with friends.
-Don't treat her like she's a fragile doll who could break at any moment.
-Try to get her to talk to a counselor, her parents, or another trusted adult. it could help to seek their judgment on this.
-Make sure she's not doing anything to harm herself. Don't be rude or too blunt about it, but there is a high chance that she is or is at least thinking of it.
-If she seems off, don't blow it off. Try to get her to talk about it, but if she insists that she doesn't want to, than leave it there but watch over her.
-Just be there for her. That's all a lot of people need.
-Don't expect her to get better right away. It might not for a while. Just stick by her, cause she'll need you.
Sorry that was a lot. I hope it all works out. Sorry I'm not really good at giving advice. Also sorry it's pretty complicated. Well, sorta.
Anyway, please keep us updated. I hope everything goes well ^ ^
(December 21, 2017 - 5:12 pm)
Oh and I forgot something-try to have her initiate most physical contact if she's feeling anxious. When you initiate a hug or anything of the sort, make sure she knows what you're doing. I don't know if physical contact is a problem for her, but it is for me and a few of my friends.
Praying for you and your friend ^ ^
(December 21, 2017 - 5:14 pm)
How are things going with your friend?
(December 30, 2017 - 7:34 am)