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I need friend help my old friend is now super mad at me for no reason any ideas on what i shuld do?
submitted by luna, age everlastin, the univers
(November 4, 2017 - 2:06 pm)
(November 4, 2017 - 2:06 pm)
I'll have to make this short because I have a ton of homework, but I would suggest just asking him/her why they are mad. They probably have some sort of reasoning, even if it doesn't seem like it to you, or something might be going wrong in their life. I think you should first just as ask what is wrong, and apologise if neccesary.
(November 4, 2017 - 5:26 pm)
(November 5, 2017 - 5:07 pm)
Ask her why she's mad...and aplogize if needed? Hope things get better between you and your friend.
(November 5, 2017 - 5:32 pm)
Hi luna, this is a situation where empathy comes in handy.
Empathy is a quality that allows people to think about how someone else may be feeling and how their actions may or may not contribute to that. Think back. Have you reapeatedly done something offensive or irksome to this friend? Was there one big offensive that may have caused them to be angry at you? Once, in my observance, a friend did something offensive behind the other’s back. Word mysteriously got back to that person, and they erupted. Has anything like that ever occurred between you two? If the answer is no to all of these questions, it is not exactly fair for this friend to be icing you out. I would then agree with the others. Confront your friend and ask them what is wrong. I am very sorry if this advice is not helpful.
Sensefully yours,
Watchgirl
(November 6, 2017 - 5:15 pm)
Yes, talk to your friend and ask why he/she is mad. Be kind and understanding and that's all you can do. Best wishes! Let us know how it goes!
(November 6, 2017 - 5:42 pm)
Think about what's going on in your friend's life, your friend might just be under a lot of stress and is taking it out on you. Also think about if you might have said or done something to your friend that might have made them upset. Just talk to your friend and ask them what's the matter. I hope this works out for you.
(November 8, 2017 - 5:00 pm)
Thank you so much guys (: I have tried to talk to her and appoligez whenever I start talking she ignors me and walks away):
(November 8, 2017 - 10:50 pm)
Luna,
I am very sorry you have to go through this experience. My advice on this is not as good as I wish I could offer.
Things you can do:
1) Do you have any mutual friends? If so, ask them or her other friends what’s going on. Although they may not tell you if they know, it shows that you genuinely care about your friendship between you and this other person.
2) Branch out. I know losing friends can be very painful, but it shows us that we can’t count on one single friend to be there all the time. Begin talking to other groups(if you are like me, that is painfully hard to do), or just begin observing who needs a friend like you. Slowly, you will plant seeds of acquaintance that may eventually grown into sturdy friendships.
3) Begin writing down your feelings on this situation. Things like this are hard to take, and if you keep it bottled up, it does no good. Something I like to do is write down my anger on a sheet of paper, then tear it up and throw it away.
Again, I wish I could offer more helpful advice, but I hope this will prove useful to you.
Sensefully yours,
Watchgirl
(November 9, 2017 - 3:13 pm)