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Advice? 

I had a middle school dance recently, and a couple of friends from my old school came up to me and asked if I knew one of the boys there. Let's call him X, and let's call my friends W, Y,  and Z. I said that I knew X, and that he was in my class, and then Y told me that she wanted a picture of him. (Literally every one of my warning flags went off) I told them not to do it, and they walked off. I then decided to tell X, that there where a couple of girls who wanted to take a picture of him. I wasn't there for what happened after that, but I believe they ended up taking the picture, and he saw them and confronted them about it, in which they denied ever taking a picture in the first place. At this point in time, my friends from my old school are really mad at me, and this has been bothering me. . . Any advice?p

submitted by . . .
(February 18, 2017 - 3:19 pm)

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Could you give a little more information about why W, Y, and Z are angry at you? It would help me give you some advice. (Hopefully. I'm really not so good at this)

submitted by Applejaguar, age !!, New York
(February 18, 2017 - 6:49 pm)

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submitted by Topplejaguar
(February 18, 2017 - 6:50 pm)
submitted by Top top topity top
(February 19, 2017 - 2:06 pm)

I think you did the right thing by telling them not to. My warning flags went off too. Taking a photo of someone with out their consent/knowledge is not a good idea. First of all, it's pointless. Second of all, it could upset the person. And then it could also get the picture-taker in trouble. That happened at my school.

I'm not really sure what your old friends were mad about. I mean, I think I know why they were mad, but I don't understand it.  They're mad at you because you wouldn't let them take the picture, from what I understand. I guess they really wanted to take the picture, and thought it was  silly or annoying that you told them no...but I don't know why they would find it silly or annoying. I'm saying this from my experiences.

I hope they don't stay mad for long, and I don't think they will. It's just a little thing. I'd try gauging them the next time you talk to them...see if they're over it or not. If they are, then that's good. If they're not, then try talking to them about it, as honestly and calmly as you can. That's my suggestion for handling the problem with your friends.

As for the picture itself, whether they still have it or not (that just occured to me) that changes things...I would advise talking to X, see what he thinks about it. After all, the picture part itself involves him.

Mostly, I would advise you to go with your gut, and do what you believe to be right, and if you feel something needs to be fixed, then do your best to fix it. 

submitted by Owlgirl
(February 20, 2017 - 5:04 pm)

I don't know why your friends wanted a picture of X, but I would tell them that while you don't think they did the right thing and it would be best for them to delete the picture, you don't want it to ruin your friendship and are willing to forgive them (assuming that's the case). Let them think about it for a while, and do anything else you think you should.

submitted by
(February 21, 2017 - 9:51 pm)