Oh, hey Mei-xue! Long time no see! Do you want to here my friendship story? It might help your case. Welp...here it goes....

Here are the friends. There is A, M, and N. (these are just random letters, not the beginning of their names.) 

Ive been friends with A my whole life. Since we were wee small. She was my best friend, forever and ever and ever. I kept on switching schools, and instead of going to the public middle school: i went to the private one. Lets call it school B. So, I went to that school because of M, a recent dance friend I made maybe three years before this. We were really close. I followed her around, because i hadnt gone here yet and she had. Soon I met N. And soon we became super close. But, you see, the problum with this school and keeping friends is that there were only 10 girls in the entire school. There was always a fight. M had other friends, and i was friends with them also, but i always hung out with M. A year passes. Now its 8th grade. The toughest year of middle school. We start the year out fine: but then to my surprise A is switched into my school! I was so happy. But N wanted me, and it was always about her, and she didnt have any other friends...and A was friends with M....so I didnt really hang out with her much. M and A were getting closer and closer. 

But then devestation happed. N and I got into a nasty fight. One that I couldnt forgive her for. I turned to A and M. But they were too wrapped up in their own drammas and friendship. I was nothing. Forgaten.

So...long story short, the year ended, i moved to the high school, i never talk to any of them anymore, I still hate N and she hates me and I think she might have actually transfered to Puerto Rico....

But anyway, I still dont have a best friend. Im scared of being hurt again. But i am developing a pretty close relashonship with a few girls. You know, the im popular and pretty but dont wear that much makup girls. Like, not the queen bees of the school but we're still pretty up there. So theyre easier to trust. 

Anywho, Im still mad at M and A. A did something that my parents didnt aprove of, and I was banned from seeing her. Im still in contact with them, i just havent seen them in a little less then a year. Broken hearts need to heal.

So, what I was getting to, be greatful for the friends you have. My new friends always ask me why Im so happy all the time. My answer? I look to the bright side of life. Ive learned to treasure my friends, and be grateful i have them. Because I know what its like to be ignored. To be...alone.

So, I guess its fine that theyre friends also. I mean, its a good thing. I mean, you dont want them fighting with each other, and you're in the situation where you have to choose between them. Be grateful that you have them.

And if things get worse, we're here for you.  

I've had this happen to me before- or, well, not this exact circumstance, but the experience of oh-they-like-hanging-out-with-someone-else-more-than-me. 

I would advise you not to try to keep X and Y from being friends or try to make yourself more "important" to both of them. 

Companionship is important, but sometimes you have to remind yourself you can function on your own. Your happiness should never rely on friends. Yes, friends can make you happier... but you should be able to be happy on your own.

Once you know you're able to be happy without your friends, you friends not constantly devoting all their attention to you will not seem like such a big deal.

Learning how to be alone, but not lonely can be hard, but it's a really important thing to be able to do. Not requiring people around you to be happy will make it easier to be happy in general, since you aren't relying on someone else for your happiness.

At least, that's my idea of things. I find that almost always, when I start to rely on someone else for happiness, they end up disappointing me. Though I have some awesome friends, they have lives too, they need support too- sometimes, you have to be able to stand on your own two feet, because nobody can spare a hand to help you up. 

Oh, Mei, that's awful! I only have five friends (three of whom live far away) and have never gone to school, so...

My only suggestions are to tell them how you feel. If you can't stand to tell them in person, write them a note, but don't make it weird. 

Aww that stinks that you have to go through that! I went through nearly the same situation about two years ago. My friends (S and R) were really close and I kinda felt left out. So, I had S over for a few sleepovers getting closer to her, then had R over a few times as well. The three of us are now really good friends. So I guess what I'm saying is to try to get them individually and spend time with both trying to get close to them again. Sometimes it doesn't work out, which is hopefully not the case here, but maybe that's why you got to meet the other girl. Sorry if this is terrible advice, I'm not good at giving advice. Praying about it always helps as well. I hope it works out for you, X, and Y! 

Mei, that's really awful. Actually, a similar thing is happening to me right now. I know what you mean, so meany people say: they're not worth it, find some new friends, but if you like someone, you can't really just forget about it. Does this problem only occur when all three of you are together? If so, try spending lots of alone time with each one of them separately. Whatever you do, don't try doing the, if they do it to me, I do it to them, then you'll just end up with three unhappy friends. I hope it all works out.

I know the feeling, Mei. People call three the "golden trio" (Harry Potter reference of course), but sometimes that isn't the case. I had two close friends, say X and Y. Y and I drifted apart over time but remained still somewhat friends. Likewis.e, X became my best friend, yet X was also best friends with Y. Since Y and I shared the same best friend, we were stuck in that trio situation, and one of us always got left out. Y got mad about it and our friendship grew even farther apart. Sadly, we're still stuck together due to our friendship with X.

The best advice I can give is do what you did that day. Try to make new friends. I'm not saying throw out and cut out your other two friends. But sometimes I guess they might want to spend time with each other. Just as you do with them. Mix it up a bit, become friends with people you usually wouldn't think of.

My two best friends now are completely different. One is a lot like me, the other one somewhat. The two of them are drastically different, but I found both to be my closest friends. I am friends with all sorts of people, you'd really be shocked on who you can discover in a friendship.

I wish you the best of luck, Mei! 

Sticky situation.  Truth is, sometimes you can't seem important to everyone, even among your friends.  That's perfectly fine.  I suggest finding some new ones.  Honest.  I would definitely not try acting more special or rare, as that may annoy them.  Maybe you could meet up with each one privately and have seperate playdates? Good luck!