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Questions... Questions. Who may ask such questions? UGH. Need. To. Do. Something. Advice?
You may ask, What on earth...? Who is this person? You know me very well. Very, very well. I'm someone who gives to find not much in return besides the thought of knowing you did something to help someone else who you barely know. If at all. Yes, I'm that person.
So. Advice? Advice for life in general. Advice for things to do. Advice, advice, who has advice?
submitted by Cheesecake, age RANDOMname, This is not my CB name
(July 26, 2016 - 1:23 pm)
(July 26, 2016 - 1:23 pm)
Yay! Another advice thread!
Help. I'm having troubles with politeness. I do try to refrain from saying rude things, but the temptation to say them pulls at my mouth. . .
Okay, I'm getting too poetic.
Anyways, help.
(July 26, 2016 - 4:52 pm)
As Oregano said, think before you speak, but don't let an opportunity pass.
Also, I offer one more thing of advice for rudeness.
Cut out rude words, completely from your dictionary. I know someone who cut out the word "but" and "buried it in the ground" so he and his family would not go making arguments, second guesses, or alternatives. I believe that was the word they removed. Do the same with words or phrases that come out as rude.
Bury them in the ground, and never use it again.
(July 27, 2016 - 10:15 am)
Think before you speak or act (but not for so long that you miss good opportunities)...
Advice is easier to give than to follow.
(July 26, 2016 - 6:07 pm)
...actually, what I often do when I want to say something rude is to remember the scene and what I would have said, and make a cartoon later where somebody says it. :P Putting it in that format also helps me clarify what my thought was, how valid it was, and whether I could have said it or really shouldn't have.
There's a great line in Homer where some character (warrior, god, etc) makes a fiery speech, one that might even be rather brash, and then when you've read through the speech Homer writes, "So he spoke, but his words remained unwinged" - ie, he didn't actually say it out loud. :D
(July 28, 2016 - 7:06 am)
l must humbly ask your sage advice on a important matter.
See, l hopefully am going to be on a triathalon team as the cyclist. Thing is, the race is mid-August, so l don't have too much time left to train. That wouldn't be a problem if not for the fact that my parents have suddenly grown very testy about letting me go out on my own. My town is small, safe and l know my way around it, plus a few months ago they used to let my sister and l go running.
So either convince my parents that l am able to go biking without them, or find an alternative way to train for 19k of biking.
Thank you! :)
(July 26, 2016 - 7:39 pm)
Do you have a stationary bike? You could use that.
(July 27, 2016 - 6:03 am)
l don't have one.
(July 27, 2016 - 9:04 pm)
From a muscular standpoint, you could substitute some core exercises, running (even up and down one block if necessary), extra squats and some jumping up and down :P
Like Ashlee said below, try to find out why your parents are reluctant to let you go far from home; asking them to explain that decision will give you some insight into how you can best suit their and your concerns. Would they go out with you while you exercise? Is there a gym where they'd let you train? etc.
Good luck!
(July 27, 2016 - 9:46 pm)
I don't have much more to offer than what was already said by Mei and Novelist. If you have a stationary bike, that is best.
If not, don't try to convince your parents first. Ask them why, why they won't let you go outside. Specifically, Is there any reason why you wouldn't let me outside on my own?
That's from a job interview question (but not the same ending to it). If they give you real reasons, give them counter points in the most mature way possible. Don't break down crying and whining. Parents hate that. Act and think like a business person, and give them no reason to not let you outside.
Hope this helps!
(July 27, 2016 - 10:19 am)
I clicked it.
anyway, CONVINCE YOUR PARENTS. YOU CAN DO IT.
Sorry, I just have a thing against parents like that.
*cough*
Or you could bike up and down your driveway!
(July 26, 2016 - 11:43 pm)
LOL, that is something I would do.
(July 27, 2016 - 9:20 am)
Anybody wish to guess who I am? Oregano already gave me dramatically needed advice on a different thread. Whether known or not. So... I'll hint. I assume it's a big hint.
I won't be here much longer.
Okay, so I have a question. Like I said, Oregano helped with so much, particularly anxiety. But what is something I can do? I... I am sort of stuck. Stuck on internet-based things. I've said this before, and it's not something I'm all too proud of. I spend 8-13 hours (sometimes more) on the internet. Usually CB, sometimes video games, very rarely on Facebook or Messanger. I need help on figuring out what to do besides that. That is the reason my parents are taking all internet. Because I - and my other siblings - barely know how to live without it. So, advice? Please?
I know this must sound pathetic. How can someone NOT know how to do things outside of the internet? I mean, I write poetry. I try writing stories, but I lose motivation. In fact, I lose motivation for everything I do. So I need help with that, too. How can I keep from losing motivation? How can I find something to do besides the CB? What IS there to do? I mean, I can't do anything city-based. I live 1 hour and a half from any major city. My town has a population of 400, for goodness sake. My school is PreK-12 and has 100 kids. Less than. I have some friends, but I don't have the courage to do anything outside of school with them. Besides occasional airsoft battles at their house. I mean, I'm clueless here. I am far from being anything "normal". As in, I don't do anything normal 15-year-olds would do. I don't hang out with friends much, talk to people, or do anything fun. I am very, VERY antisocial. I have social anxiety and have a hard time talking to people. In fact, I have a hard time holding friends.
Please help, guys. People here say I've offered support to them. I don't know how, but maybe I did. So can you do the same for me? And this is sort of serious. I got less than a week to figure this out. For all those questions.
For any who did not figure it out yet, I'm Ashlee G.
Just thought I'd let you know.
(July 28, 2016 - 12:50 am)
Develop a hobby! I've recently got into Zentangle. You should check it out.
And work up the courage. Play with your friends more.
And since you can't look to the INternet for friendship tips, get a book on how to get more friends. Trust me, it'll pay off.
You have too much time, I have too little. I wish we could to a tradeoff. Sadly, we can't.
(July 29, 2016 - 12:29 pm)
Thank you, Mei! I just now looked up Zentangle as you mentioned it. It looks stunning, I'll have to try into it for sure.
As for working up courage, I try. I mean, sometimes. Sometimes I could try harder. That is something I will have to work on for sure. As for books on making friends, our library is really tiny and has really just classics. But my school library is partnering with a bigger city near us and might be able to bring in those books. So yes, I believe that would help me greatly.
I know, I hate not being busy. During the school year, I usually love it to the sense that I'm always busy. It can be frustrating, stressful, but I need a busy lifestyle. Trading off would be nice for a change. Well, thank you very much!
(July 29, 2016 - 11:28 pm)
Hm... You say that you lose your motivation easily. This is something I still struggle with, myself, so I'm not sure how sound my advice is here. :D But, there are things you enjoy - as with the CB itself, try to figure out what you love about them - it will give you insight into what you really need, and it will help you find the good sides of the other things you have to do. (I joined a local martial arts group, which was an excellent experience, even though it took me a few years to come out of my shell. :P The instructors were great at motivating their students, and we pumped each other up with enthusiasm - and the levels of training kept us coming back... I'm one of the junior instructors now.) In general, I'd say if you lose your speed with some project, it's OK - just try and figure out why, and whether it's something you can change. Think about what you'd gain if you finished it, whether it would be ultimately rewarding or if it would only wear you down. Don't make yourself feel bad about things you don't succeed in (excessive self-criticism isn't going to help), but look for what you can do differently next time.
I've found that spending most of my time in school pursuits and more mental activities leaves me needing to do something more concrete - exercise, sewing, scrubbing things, origami, cartooning, etc. Use different parts of your brain. :) And, we're all a little literary here - there's always reading! Books don't mind if you don't finish them, but they're also of finite length... or infinite, if you keep thinking about them forever.
They say normal is a setting on the dryer - I don't know anyone normal. :P I still have social anxiety, too, and I'm going to college this fall! That's OK with me, because social anxieties only diminish with experience... if you look back at your time spent here, I bet you'll see how you've matured and gained confidence with others. That kind of confidence can be transferred to "real" people, too.
I'm sure you can hold friends, too. :) You can always talk to me, though I'll be online infrequently this year...
(July 29, 2016 - 4:45 pm)