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submitted by Jack-a-Nat, Natalie
(July 18, 2016 - 8:17 am)
(July 18, 2016 - 8:17 am)
A whole bunch of my friends are all fighting--they're fighting about fighting, fighting about pointless things, and fighting about things that simply aren't meant to be discussed amongst friends, such as voting. All my other friends are trying to cool the waters, but none of my fighting friends can just agree with them, and they have to have an enormous discussion that gets nowhere about everything that's said. I don't know what to do. I don't want to say anything in case it comes across as rude, or it sparks up another enormous, pointless discussion that gets nowhere. What should I do? What should my peaceful friends do? What should my fighting friends do?
Signed,
Tied Among Needless and Threads
(July 18, 2016 - 1:07 pm)
PS. ADMINS THAT WAS THE FASTEST POST I'VE EVER SEEN!!!! XD XD XD XD XD
(July 18, 2016 - 1:09 pm)
To: Tied in Needles and Threads
Maybe you should give your friends some time to resolve their problems. You can stand to the side and see if they resolve their problems. If not, talk to an adult. They might be able to help.
Advice from my life
Last year, when I got back from camp, I was depressed. I thought that that depression would come back this year, and it almost did. I cried myself to sleep one night. It wasn't really depression, like last year, but I still was sad. I'm in a group chat, which helps a lot. I still miss camp, but I'm not as sad.
From,
Happy Camper
(July 18, 2016 - 1:22 pm)
Hello. I DESPERATELY need advice, but will remain anonymous.
I'm a CBer whose dog was put down recently. Ever since, I've been seeing her out of the corner of my eye, but when I look up, she's gone.
I was weeding the garden in my backyard when I saw, out of the corner of my eye, a big white thing lumbering past. I looked up, and it was gone...and it lumbered and was white, just like my dog! And I had seen my dog lumber past that garden so many times...
I was in bed with my puppy, like every other night (I sleep with my other dog. I know, it sounds weird, but he's a tiny, cute mix and is such a cuddlebug.), and I fell asleep..I woke up in the middle of the night, and I heard claws on the floor downstairs--big claws, like my dog used to walk. But my other puppy was right next to me!
I told my parents about this, and they don't believe me!
I know this is a strange thing to ask for advice about, but what do I do?
-Is it real?
(July 18, 2016 - 2:10 pm)
Since you are sad, you might be imagining things because your mind is going to good memories. It's really your choice to figure out: only you can really know. But, CB will always be here for you.
(July 18, 2016 - 4:14 pm)
This sounds weird, but could it be your dog's spirit? I don't know if you believe in things like that. I do, but I'm a faithful person. I believe that "The ones that love us never truly leave us." -Sirius Black. My grandmother says that for years after her cat died she could still feel her jumping up on the bed at night.
(July 18, 2016 - 6:28 pm)
I don't believe in animals having spirits, so i think you are just seeing your dog either because you miss her so much your mind makes an ilusion or you saw her so often that you're memory of your dog is still fresh and vivd. I send you hugs and cupcakes. You have friends at chatterbox. :)
(July 19, 2016 - 5:28 am)
Sorry, I would have answered this earlier, but I have been unable to go on the CB. I'm willing to give out my advice willingly, but it is up to you on what you believe. I have to say... as weird as it might sound, it could have been something like the spirit of your dog, as previously mentioned. I see life things in the way most Native Americans do in the fact that every living being has a spirit. Such as humans, dogs, bears, bugs, trees, anything living and breathing. I know that might sound weird, and it depends on what you are willing to accept. Now, if you can actually see it... I don't know. I don't know if one can simply see a spirit. I just know they are there, basically a ghost. I've never had a thing like that happen, but then again, I've never been hit with such a sadness. Just remember, we are here for you. Always.
(July 20, 2016 - 12:31 pm)
Wow,I had a similar expireince when my cat wioli died.It happened quite a while ago, But sometimes i think I see a silouet of a fat cat walking next to me. It feels so real that I think that there is actualy somthing there, but when I look there's nothing. I told my parents about it too.
(July 20, 2016 - 7:19 pm)
I need some advice.
Okay. So, last week, I was out in public, and my mom and sister were being really embarrassing. My heart started beating really fast, and I sort of felt like I needed to get away as soon as I possibly could. It's hard to explain. Later, I was on the internet, and somehow came across symptoms of social anxiety. I could relate to everything on the list. I'd always thought that I was the only one who had those feelings, but... It's sort of a comfort, knowing that other people are like that, but now I don't know what to do. I told my mom, but she says I'm just shy. I really think it's something more than that, but I wouldn't know. So, do any of you have similar feelings? Do any of you have suggestions/tips for dealing with this?
(July 19, 2016 - 4:31 pm)
I'm sorry you feel that way, Bluebird. I can't give you any advice, but just know I am praying for you and I send plenty of hugs. ~Daisy out
Oh, announcement! If you guys wAnt, call me Daisy.
(July 19, 2016 - 7:58 pm)
When I was younger, I had so much courage out in public... I would run around like crazy and speak my mind to everyone I met. But then at night I would lie awake worrying about what people thought of me and I would think about all the embarrasing things I did that day. As I grew older, I started being quiet and trying to talk as little as possible. Yes, I don't lie awake worrying at night anymore, but it is kind of a big sacrifice.
So, I guess what I'm trying to say is, the choice is yours of how you want to deal with it. Either way there will be sacrifice, and either way you will be stressed. You are not the only person who feels this way, a lot of people deal with social anxiety.
Another thing to think about is how other people view you. For example, how would people view this scene: A girl is standing beside her sister and her mother, who are doing embarrasing things. The girl is staring at the floor, hunched over, and she's blushing. She's obviously very uncomftorable. Or there's this scene: A girl is standing beside her sister and mother, who are doing embarrasing things. She's standing tall and her shoulders are back. She shaked her head at their antics and chuckles a little.
The second girl appears way more confident, and the first girl appears really nervous. If I was going to try to start a converstation with someone, I would approach the second girl because she seems nice and friendly, while it seems like it would be hard for me to talk to the first girl, who comes across shy and quiet.
(July 20, 2016 - 8:44 am)
Bluebird, I know from experience that is social anxiety. It is rare, I guess, but my mom has it. I have it. It is actually genetic if I remember correctly. I haven't really figured out how to deal with the situation yet. I tend to... err... stick to the side walls. So don't do that. It'll just make things worse.
The best tip is to get out there. Do contests, work your hardest, so you'll be on stage for your award. Do speeches. Run for ASB (if you are in public school). Talk to new people you usually wouldn't talk to. I found those things have helped me a lot in my problems. Like I said, being a wallflower, while not bad, doesn't help the situation much.
A good example is for FBLA (Future Business Leaders of America), I had to do this huge business plan presentation with two other high school girls. One was a junior, the other a senior. Not to mention, both of them hated me. I was only a freshman. The youngest in our group. Once we were announced to go on to State Level, we had only a few days to write our scripts, memorize it, and then present it to the judges. There was also an audience of other competitors behind us. You know what I did? Took a deep breath, went out there, and blew their minds.
This is someone who can barely talk to her own class of 8 kids. Seriously. So just take the first step, no matter how small, and you'll get a hold of your anxiety.
(July 20, 2016 - 12:39 pm)
Wow Ashlee, that is an amazing story and even more amazing advice. Good for you!
(July 20, 2016 - 3:05 pm)
Thank you, Elmodaisy! That was one of the hardest things I had to do thanks to anxiety. Also, I wish you good luck, Bluebird! You can overcome it, it'll just take some practice and time.
(July 20, 2016 - 8:24 pm)