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Dealing With Overconfiden
Dealing With Overconfident/Arrogant People
I really hope that I'm not the only one with this problem. At school, we have a tetherball thingy, so we play tetherball. I hadn't played before, but 3 days ago during recess, my friend suggested I play. I obliged. I played against her, and she won.
Ok, that's fine. I had done a pretty good job and she said that I was pretty good, for my first time. Then the next recess, I playedwith her again. This time I didn't play as aggresively becasue I had gotten bruises all the way up my arm because of it.
This time? I beat her. She quickly said that she had "gone easy on me" and demanded we play again.
I beat her again. Then she stopped playing.
And today, she played with me again. I beat her 5 out of 7 times. She quickly rushed into how she had twisted her ankle a little, and was off her gameAns while we were playing, she was constantly complaining about how bad I am, and how amazing she is.
Everyone WORSHIPS her because of it. Well guess what?
I have CHRONICALLY sprained ankles, so I am in constant, terrible pain. I broke me foot last week yup, x-rayes and everythig to prove it. And I also got bruised from the ropetwisting around my arm. Why? Because I am horribly farsighted, and if I look above the rim of my glasses, I see two of everyhting, and it's BLURRED.
She has NO EXCUSE to why she couldn't beat me.
She's so arrogant! And if she ever loses anything, she has a million excuses. I get that, but it's obnoxious. AND SHE DOES THIS WITH EVERYTHING.
UGHUGHGUGHGGUGHUHUGHUGHUGHUHGUGHUGHGUHGUG
submitted by S.E.
(May 6, 2016 - 12:47 pm)
(May 6, 2016 - 12:47 pm)
Gee, this does sound frustrating!! People like that just aren't very fun to hang out with. :/
What I would do is (1 not keep it bottled up. Talk to family about it- they might have less cheesy advice than I do. ;)
and (2 focuse on being a good sport, don't let her bad vibes get to you!
and (3 don't accept the next time she asks to play!
(May 6, 2016 - 3:56 pm)
That's the problem, though. She's basically one of two friends. And whenever she plays I feel even worse about myself than usual because she's always like "you're so easy to beat, I wanna play someone else" literally BECAUSE I can beat her.
And she is like that with EVERYTHING she does. It's so frustrating. Ugh
(May 6, 2016 - 6:27 pm)
SE: I'm so sorry about your friend! I hope that you and her can work it out. Maybe try to talk it out. Also, do you happen to go to school in Mass? That kinda sounds like I'm a stalker but I think for some odd reason I know you...
~HSG
(May 6, 2016 - 6:46 pm)
Yes, I do. How do you think you know me....?
(May 7, 2016 - 7:40 am)
Okay. Do you go to a school thats name starts with the letter "H"?
(May 7, 2016 - 6:11 pm)
No :(
(May 8, 2016 - 5:23 am)
I was once in that position when you don't want to break up the friendship because it's your only/almost only one. I just got really fed up because all my friend wanted to do was film her movies, and since I was the only friend of hers who wasn't brave enough to stand up to her and say no, I always ended up dressed in ridiculous costumes, doing something I never signed up for. Like, I I like that kind of thing, but I don't like being bossed around. But whatever. That's my problem. The thing is, everyone's different, but I think you should just ask her not to come up with excuses. Maybe she'll say sorry, and you can keep on being friends, even. I don't know. (Check out the truth thread. You'll get why I give really bad advice about friendships.)
(May 6, 2016 - 7:24 pm)
I used to be in a similar situation. I'm still friends with her now, but I actually have a social life now and don't hang out with her as much. I vent about her all the time, but once, a girl betrayed me and told her (!!! D:), but she's gotten better now. So just, wait it out! And try to get more friends.
(May 6, 2016 - 6:50 pm)
Well, it's better to have one real friend than 100 fake ones.
True friends don't target-practice on people's faults. Okay, so you're better at tetherball than her. That's really cool, since you have all that going on.
Try finding a new friend.
Also, does she act this way all the time?
(May 6, 2016 - 9:48 pm)
She acts this way about most things. But most of the time, she's an awesome friend. That's the problem.
(May 7, 2016 - 7:43 am)
I don't have much advice, but I wouldn't hang out with her in the first place.
(May 7, 2016 - 7:07 am)
Just get more friends! I know what I'm talking about.
(May 7, 2016 - 10:06 am)
I can't just "get more friends." That's not how life works.
(May 7, 2016 - 9:04 pm)
I know what you mean. That's the reason I only have FOUR FRIENDS! Not counting you awesome guys on the CB.
(May 8, 2016 - 7:30 am)
Okay, it just sounds like her intial personality is nice mostly but sometimes overconfident. I'd try talking it out with her and discussing how you feel.
(May 7, 2016 - 3:32 pm)