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Should guys open doors for girls?
Personally, I think they should, if they have the right intention. I like it when guys open doors for me. It makes me feel like I actually matter, that they went out of their way to do that for me. I know some others feel like when guys open doors for girls that they are implying girls are weak, and if that's true, then no, I would say they shouldn't. I think it's OK for them to open doors for girls if they have a good intention.
So girls, what's your opinion on this? Should guys open doors for you?
And guys, why do you open doors for girls? Have you ever made anyone mad by opening a door for them? Have you ever made anyone happy?
Please comment and thanks for reading!
submitted by Joss, age 13, ME
(March 20, 2016 - 2:59 pm)
(March 20, 2016 - 2:59 pm)
I don't care either way. Honestly, no one would bother opening a door for me, they'd just scuttle away whispering, Oh, it's Scylla, isn't she the weird one that spends half her day behind a sketchbook? I'm probably exaggreating, because I actually get quite a few compliments on the happenings in my sketchbook, but whatever. So I'd definitely open a door for someone, even though I'm a girl. It's a polite, usually respectful gesture. I'm afraid that not too much of those two things remain in this sorry state of a world.
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(March 20, 2016 - 3:28 pm)
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(March 20, 2016 - 4:10 pm)
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(March 20, 2016 - 7:36 pm)
I am completley bothered by this so I'm not sure that my opinion matches other people's, but I think that whoever is in front of you should open the door, regardless of gender. WHO CARES??? I am personally quite athletic and can beat boys in loads of sports (girls, too) so just having the door opened bothers me a TON!
(March 20, 2016 - 8:04 pm)
I've never thought of opening doors as an implication of weakness, though now that you mentioned it that's interesting!
I think it really shows manners so if a guy can, he maybe should? But I don't think it's limited to guys: I open doors and hold doors for people as a regular habit. If someone opened a door for me, I hope I would be able to take the gesture graciously.
But again, I think it's just a matter of judging people. Will it offend someone if you open the door? Then don't. Will they not care? Then whatever. Will they dislike you if you don't? How much do you care about their opinion?
(March 20, 2016 - 8:10 pm)
Honestly, I don't care if anyone opens a door for me. But I don't really think that most guys have the intention of doing it because girls are "weak." Some do, probably though. I wouldn't care unless they suddenly let go of the door so it would slam into my face. O.o
I don't really open doors for others, but rather "hold" them open after I've walked through.
(March 20, 2016 - 8:21 pm)
It's polite for guys to open the door for girls. They don't need it of course, but it's still very polite. It usually makes people happy, I've never had anyone get annoyed with me that I can remember...
(March 20, 2016 - 9:34 pm)
I am over sensitive to this, because I have always been underestimated because I don't have the typical soccer/basketball/hockey build. I'm built for track, especially sprints, football, frisbee, karate, boxing, whatever, so people don't automatically assume I'm athletic. I appreciate having someone open a door for me, whether it's a boy or a girl, whatever, but if it's done just because I'm girl, or if a boy noticably goes out of the way because I'm a girl, I'll usually get annoyed. If I get there first, I'm completely capable of opening a stupid door.
(March 21, 2016 - 5:46 am)
I generally hold any door for anyone, regardless of gender, age, etc. I love making people happy!
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(May 13, 2016 - 9:27 am)
Okay, I have no problem with guys opening doors for me or for others. I also open doors for people, guys and girls. So, in my opinion, it's polite to do this to anyone, regardless of your or their gender. It's a nice gesture, whether coming from or to a girl or a guy.
(March 20, 2016 - 10:19 pm)
This si a polite gesture. I believe it's great when people still remember such things, as well as taking coats, removing hats, etc. It's just good manners, and it's nice.
(March 20, 2016 - 11:12 pm)
My brothers don't even bother, so I usually end up holding the door for people who have their hands full. Several people thank me, and they don't care if I'm a guy or girl.
(March 21, 2016 - 7:35 am)
Everyone should hold or open doors for others. It's basic good manners. I don't think it matters what the gender of the person who's opening the door is, or the gender of the person who the door is being opened for. Never be afraid that you're going to offend someone by opening the door for them. If they do get offended, that's ridiculous, because they're getting offended by the practice of basic ettiquette.
Also, it's especially important to hold doors (and stand up and offer your seat if you're on a crowded bus) for pregnant woman, the aged, people with babies or small children, people with strollers, and people who are carrying a lot of bags and stuff.
Whenever it comes to a matter of ettiquette, I think, "What would Miss Manners say?" I recommend reading at least one of her books.
(March 21, 2016 - 12:13 pm)
I think anyone should open doors for anyone. I don't think guys should open doors because that means girls shouldn't open doors for guys. I don't believe in sexism.
(March 21, 2016 - 2:03 pm)
I hold doors open for people more than they seem to hold them for me, BUT when people do, it is not because I am girl, or they are a guy. It is because it is a nice gesture, and I appreciate it, whatever gender the door-holder is.
Also, it really bugs me when I hold the door open for someone and they don't say thank you. Does anybuggy else have this problem?
(March 21, 2016 - 7:12 pm)