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OK, so today at school was just horrible. I've always thought I was fairly likable. I have lots of friends and people say I'm fun to be around. But today during lunch my friend (let's call him Colin) was teasing me (in a friendly way. That's just kind of our thing). So of course I was laughing really hard, but I didn't think it was really annoying to the other people. It's just laughter. But it was, evidently, because one of the mean girls at my school, who I barely even know (let's call her Sienna) kept shooting me these dirty looks and rolling her eyes while I was laughing. I ignored her, shaking it off. Then Colin dared me to pretend to steal my friend (let's call her Wren)'s phone when she wasn't looking. I agreed to do it knowing that Wren wouldn't mind, and I took it from her table and brought it back over to my own table. What I didn't realize was that Wren was sitting with Sienna, which means major trouble. Colin started yelling, "Wren! She took your phone!" and waving all around like a maniac while I turned bright red and gave Wren her phone back. She didn't say anything, but Sienna just had to butt in: "Seriously, no one even likes you." That really stung. I acted like I wasn't offended, but I was practically dying on the inside. Then I ran to the bathroom and cried for like ten minutes straight... yeah I'm a crybaby. It just completely sucked. I didn't know I was so... dislikable.
Could anyone please lend me some advice?
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(May 19, 2015 - 10:27 pm)
(May 19, 2015 - 10:27 pm)
You know, you're not a crybaby. I cry a ton. I randomly break out in tears in class, all the time. And I don't consider myself a crybaby.
About that mean girl. What she did to you was really hurtful, and not OK. And is your friend "Wren" a good friend to you? If so, maybe ask her to confront "Sienna" about this ( because "Wren" seems to be aquainted with her). Perhaps you could catch her alone, and telll her outright that what she did was plain mean. I'm sorry that this had to happen to you. Nobody should have to endure something like that.
I was teased a lot by one person in my class in the beginning of the year, and even though my classmates stood up for me, and I tryed to make good comebacks ( something I'm not very good at). In the end, after a few months of that, I told an adult I trusted (in this case it was my teacher, who totally rocks). Everything was better after that. The teaser got a talking-to, apologized, and stopped. So maybe you should, if "Sienna" continues to be mean, tell someone with higher authority, such as a parent. This may seem like the last thing you want to do, but it is an option.
(May 20, 2015 - 5:24 am)
Thanks. That helped tons.
Wren is a friend, but she isn't close. We used to be closer but then she kinda gravitated more towards the mean crowd. She's not mean though, just sarcastic sometimes. But I would still call her a friend. She didn't stand up for me, but I don't blame her. Who knows what Sienna would do to her.
About talking to an adult, I've been thinking about telling the guidance counselor but I feel like it's too small of a deal. Remember I barely know Sienna. That was the only mean thing (actually just thing in general) that she has ever said to me.
(May 20, 2015 - 2:01 pm)
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(May 20, 2015 - 5:26 am)
Don't take it to heart, it's not personal, and it doesn't mean you're not likeable. There are people like that everywhere, and they just decide not to like certain people for no reason at all. Lord knows I've dealt with a fair share of 'em too. It's not just you.
Laughing aloud, playing gentle pranks, having fun, that's nothing to be ashamed of. She's just a snob who had no business insulting you like that. And feeling hurt and crying because of it isn't anything to be ashamed of either. Anyone would be hurt.
Since you say this is the first openly mean thing she's done to you, no, I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. I only say this because teachers and councilors are more prone to think you're just being a tattle tale and that you're the mean one and that you just want to cause trouble. Try to shrug it off and not let her bother you. But if she continues with snide comments or acting like that, then I'd definitely tell someone.
Please don't let it get to you, you're worth so much more than this girl wants to make you feel! She's just arrogant and shallow and couldn't see the difference of a diamond from a brick. Just remember you're own worth and how special you are. Keep your chin up, head held high.
(May 20, 2015 - 5:08 pm)
I agree with BHR, and I have to say I am in a bit of the same situation.
My best friend from preschool to fourth grade moved in fourth grade (well, changed schools) and joined the school with the popular crowd.
(May 20, 2015 - 7:25 pm)
Thank you guys. I feel much better now.
(May 20, 2015 - 9:26 pm)
You have absoloutely NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT! A similare situation happened to me. Your friends love you, I can tell. If you were so disliked, your friends wouldn't be joking around with you! Me and my friends, if your joked around with, your liked. Now, that girl that said you weren't liked was just plain mean. There are many people like that out there. Who knows? Maybe she'll have a change of heart. Now, if your real worrried about it, just talk it over with your buds! Anyway, I'll be praying for you.
(May 21, 2015 - 9:45 pm)
Enough said by the name of what happened to me.But,don't worry about what that evil girl said to you;YOU ARE LIKED!
(May 22, 2015 - 4:09 pm)