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So, I know most people think popularity is a waste of time etc., but my problem isn't popularity, exactly. So, you see, I am a very loyal person, and I have been loyal to my friends all my life. Unfortunately, I don't think the feeling is mutual. Ever since I began to homeschool, I saw my friends only a little bit less than I used to, and suddenly, a humongous change in my life happened. It could also be that 4 years ago I was diagnosed with a hip problem, which is still healing, and means I can do everything but run and jump. But anyway, since those events occurred, my friends stopped caring for me, until now it's literally like I have no friends at all. True friends, that is. Now, you are going to say that I just feel like that cause I'm depressed etc. but no. When I see my "friends", I feel very awkward because no one says hi to me even if I say hello until, like, 5 minutes later. Then, they do some games which I can only watch (this isn't their fault maybe, but still if they are really my friends they should be considerate) because they run and jump, and don't care if I'm left standing, alone. If I say something when we're talking, I am very likely to be ignored by the whole party. =( You guys are my only friends, and I depend on you, so help me, so advise me, please..................
submitted by CaykeTheCook
(February 24, 2015 - 5:45 pm)
(February 24, 2015 - 5:45 pm)
Aw, Cayke! That's so sad!!! :(
Hmm. Well, I know this isn't what you want, but: Anyone else at school that you feel like you could hang out with?
If not, I suggest demanding attention. Or speaking up! I mean, maybe they don't realize it. Maybe if you let them know, you know, "Hey, um, guys? I can't really play this game. Could we play something else?"
If they are good friends, they should acknowledge you and agree to play a different game.
But, I know what you're going to say! Easier said than done! But I promise you, once you do it, well.... you will get some answers.
Also, I'm not sure how old you are, but if you're in the stage where popularity isn't a problem yet, well... reach out! I mean, sure, keep your BFFs and original friends. But it's nice to have a classroom full of people that you're friendly with!
...well, hope this helps...
(February 24, 2015 - 7:30 pm)
I actually do have some friends who aren't like that, but I don't see them very often. And I homeschool, so I don't have a whole school to choose friends from. =( Also, the 'friends' in question, I have known them since I was in kindergarten, which makes things even more painful. But, thank you for your advice, you cheered me up a bit. =)
(February 24, 2015 - 9:02 pm)
And I am considered 12 even though my birthday isn't quite here yet. =) I AM AT THE AGE WHERE YOUR SOCIAL STATUS MATTERS. =(
(February 24, 2015 - 9:04 pm)
Hey, Cayke! I'm so sorry to hear about this! I would try to hang out with your other, more compassionate friends as much as possible. Branch out! I did, and I made really good friends by doing that. As for your original friends, try speaking up like Owl said. Try saying something like; "Guys, I really can't play this. Let's do something else." Try tough love. Sure you like your friends, but they shouldn't treat you like that. If that doesn't work. Try plan B. I'm homeschooled to, and I'm part of a homeschool group. As a matter of fact, I changed friend groups a while back and that worked out great. I'm still friends with the previous group, but I hang out more with my new one. If that makes any sense. Maybe there's a homeschool group in your area? But most importantly of all, don't worry. In a worse case scenario, you'll just have to star hanging out with your other, more compassionate friends! Please us how it goes with your friends!
Will, I quickly posted your recent query about the Avatar RP without answering your question, and now I can't find it. Look for the RP on a back page and send a Reply comment on it. That should bring it back to the front . . . I think.
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(February 24, 2015 - 10:17 pm)
@Will: Thank you!! Your advice was very kind and sympathetic. That is a good idea. I could probably interact with them more if I had an email, but my mother said she'd make me one then she (apparently) forgot and I am too shy to bring up the topic. =( And, we do have a homeschooler group in my area. The girls in that group are my nice friends, who are considerate, but they are either younger or older than me......and you know what that's like. But I love them, and I do hang out with them as much as possible. We usually meet on Tuesdays, but more often than not it is cancelled, because people get busy. There are also hardly any people in it. About..............ten I guess, including boys and grownups.
Soo..... yeah. Thank you and St. Owl for all your advice, you were very kind. =)
(February 25, 2015 - 12:20 pm)
Ugh, I know that 'afraid to bring up a topic' feeling. Not a good feeling. Blarg. Buuuut....I'm sure your mother wouldn't mind. Why don't you try it? Wouldn't hurt.
(February 25, 2015 - 9:17 pm)
(February 26, 2015 - 1:36 pm)
@Ellie: Thank you for your advice! I am a Muslim, so we go to a mosque, which is basically the Muslim equivalent of church. However, even though I go there, it is usually during the day when people are at school, so there aren't many kids =( I'll try during summer break though!
@Will: Yeah, maybe I should.......perhaps I'll get the courage on my 12th birthday. =)
(February 26, 2015 - 3:24 pm)
I understand, right now I have only like, one or two friends, and with my best friend sometiimes I feel like I'm not her best friend, if you know what I mean, and I'm going to a school next year so I'm afraid she's not going to still want to do things with me.
(February 26, 2015 - 3:30 pm)
Oh, and one more thing, it took me about 3 years to make friends at my chorus but extracurricular activities are really good when you're homeschooled. I'm really bad at making friends.
(February 26, 2015 - 3:32 pm)
My mom told me that if you are talking to someone who isn't interested in you (not saying your friends are like that, but you know what I'm trying to say) it helps if you ask them questions about themselves. Like, if your friend had a dog, then ask how the dog is doing. Stuff like that. That might help.
(February 27, 2015 - 11:36 am)