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I'm totally into this girl! I think she likes me!!! She's exactly one month younger than me. I see her every Saturday before my Gaming Design class at Moore College of Art and Design. I totally like her and I really think she likes me! Finally, a prospective girlfriend who could actually realistically happen! Advice? My sis asked my mom when we could date and reported to me on the answer, by the way. "Not yet," she says.
*Oh man I hope she doesn't see this...*
submitted by Joe the Stickfiddler, age 14, Crush Vortex
(February 26, 2014 - 6:32 pm)
(February 26, 2014 - 6:32 pm)
You made me smile. I don't have any advice for you, but good luck! :)
(February 26, 2014 - 8:33 pm)
(March 4, 2014 - 4:27 pm)
I got clarification from my sis about what my mom said, which was actually "maybe, but I'll have to think about whether you're mature enough, nothing to do with age" (in other words she's not going to be like, "ok, you're 15. Go ahead and date").
Now I'll probably ask her out on the second-to-last week of the Gaming Design class (she's not in my class but another that also happens at Moore on the same schedule), assuming my parents say yes, they think I'm mature enough. I asked my dad too, he said he'd talk with my mom about it and they'd let me know (or I'll have to remind them).
(March 4, 2014 - 7:56 pm)
-fist bump-
(March 5, 2014 - 6:30 am)
That sounds so adorable (not meaning to be twee or anything here!)
What's kind of fun about you, Joe the Stickfiddler, is that I can get the boy's point of view on romance. Their minds are very alien to me. :)
So, what's she like, this gal of yours? Temperament and general description of appearance. Can't help you if I don't know what she's like.
Ok, why did this whole post sound so obnoxious? Did not mean to sound like that at all. Merely helpful (and a little curious).
(March 5, 2014 - 5:56 pm)
@Everinne: She's an ADORABLE chick. Black hair, thin build, contacts or glasses depending on what she has at the moment, about a foot shorter. I'll get back to you on her emotional traits.
(March 6, 2014 - 8:37 pm)
Interesting...
Good Luck!
(March 5, 2014 - 8:02 pm)
As a 14 year old female I'll give you some pointes xD
1. DO NOT make it stupidly annoyingly obvious you like her . I promise you that's one of the biggest turn off's lol . Make it known , but don't like be all gushy or annoying lol .
2. DO NOT act all nerdy or anything . I mean being smart is cool , being nerdy is cool , but seriously don't be like the nerd in the movies only talking about school ..
3. WEAR COLOGNE .. I'm sorry if that sounds stupid lol but girls like guys that smell good !
4. Talk to her BEFORE YOU ASK HER OUT . I mean if you come out like "hey do you wanna be my girlfriend" when yall barely talk , she's gonna be like "uhm dude , I don't know you ." .. So just get her number or Facebook or something , talk for about a week or two .. maybe even a month THEN ask her out ...
5. Don't be clingy .. girls hate that and she'll break up with you soo fast if you're clingy .. I mean good morning and good night texts are adorable .. have a good day texts during lunch .. but texting and texting and she doesn't text back , now that's clingy ...
6. Don't be a jerk to her when you're w. your friends ! Seriously I don't get why boys do that !
Good luck my friend c;
(March 6, 2014 - 1:38 pm)
Happy for you and wishing you luck!!!
I'm also happy to see your blog up and running again. :)
(March 6, 2014 - 8:11 pm)
Actually, my parents took my password again. You'll have to wait awhile for more updates.
(March 6, 2014 - 8:32 pm)
@Vida: Thanks for the advice!
(March 6, 2014 - 8:34 pm)
You're Welcome Joe the Stickfiddler !
( I seem to give good relationship advice , yet I can't get a boyfriend that isn't a jerk to save my life ! )
(March 7, 2014 - 12:08 pm)
Just adding on to Vida!
1. Look nice when you see her.
2. Do NOT tell jokes. Even if you think it'll be funny, just DON'T. It makes girls awkwardly uncomfortable. Take if from me.
3. Grin. Girls love it.
4. Listen when she talks, and respond.
5. Don't be all like, "Will you go out with me? We can go to McDonald's!" Or any other way-too-casual-for-a-first-date place like that. Plus, McDonald's is gross anyway.
6. At the same time, don't make the date somewhere way too fancy, like a chariot ride. She'll think you're taking it way too fast and commitedly, and she'll react as if you've just proposed to her. But not in a good way.
Good date places that girls love:
- the movies
- the park
- a concert
- a restaurant
- a dance or prom, if you have one coming up
7. Don't ask her to be your girlfriend straight up. Take things slow. Let her lead the relationship. Girls love power. (MWAHAHA) Anyway, just ask her something short and sweet, like, "Would you like to go to the movies with me this Saturday?"
8. Don't be a jerk, like, "You. Me. Date. You're welcome." Be polite.
9. Smell nice! Girls LOOOOOOOOOOOOVE IT.
10. And last, but not least, be yourself! I know that everyone says that, but you need to make sure she likes you for you. If she doesn't, she's not worth it! Go with the flow!
GOOD LUCK!
(March 7, 2014 - 4:30 pm)
All right...advice...
1. Talk to her about things that interest her. Either books, movies, or at least something that can get conversation going.
2. Do NOT seem desperate. It is sometimes a turn-off. You don't have to be aloof, but just seem chill about it.
3. Compliment her. Not all the time and not obsequiously, but just let her know you do find her attractive without being all "Oh, you're hot."
4. Besides cologne, chew peppermint gum before you talk to her for a long time. Bad breath is worse than sweat.
5. Don't put down the things she says. You can disagree, but don't think you know everything, even on a subject you might know more about than her.
Last thing: If you think you did something "wrong" don't make a big deal about it. Like the anonymous poster before me said, go with the flow. She shouldn't expect anything major from you if you're just starting to date or whatever. Plus, awkwardness is sometimes charming.
Hope this helps you out a little (and good luck!)
(March 7, 2014 - 7:30 pm)
1. Be yourself
2. Let her be herself -This is incredibly important!
3. Casually show her how much you like being with her by using playful conversation and laughter... girls like laughter and smiles.
(March 10, 2014 - 7:35 pm)