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How do you vent anger? I keep finding myself in the depths
of it, but without knowing what to do about it.
Usually when something happens the way I don’t want it to,
or just bad or unfortunate, I feel utter
hatred toward the thing or person that caused it. I feel really restless and
jumpy, and my heart starts beating really fast, and rather than take it out on
other people, it stays bottled up inside where I usually break down. I start
pacing my room, and I’m too shaky to do anything, and my tears run hot down my
cheeks. I also feel a really violent feeling of desire to seriously injure someone and have to stay in my room, walking
up and down the wall, till It goes away.
My parents just tell me to repeat these religious phrases,
which does nothing at all, and doing something recreational doesn’t satisfy
that terribly feeling of hurting someone. I’ve tried doing so many of the things I like
to do: reading, writing, decorating my room..
but only after a really long time does it go away, and I can barely stand
it.
If you have any tips.. any at all, to help, then please
please please let me know.. I really need to get rid of it.
When you're angry about something, I think it's best to talk about it to someone who will listen. Get it out, don't keep it inside. Then move on and don't dwell on the past. Many people are helped by physical activity, a sport or other activity they enjoy, or by music--either listening, playing an instrument, or singing. Life can sometimes be difficult, but work through the anger and come out stronger, better prepared for the future.
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submitted by Blackberry E., age 13
(January 28, 2013 - 4:45 pm)
(January 28, 2013 - 4:45 pm)
I try to take it out on words that start with the letter "P" other than "people." Paper, pens, pencils (writing, drawing, reading) Pillows. I don't know what Normal has to do with it, but try doing something that really absorbs your attention. Hope this helps!
(January 28, 2013 - 7:45 pm)
Yeah, I get really angry a lot. It feels like I have a dragon living in my head, and when it wakes up, I snap, I start moving faster, and I scare everyone around me. (Which can be useful. Once we were playing soccer in P.E., I snapped, and no one would go near our goal. We won.) It tends to happen whenever I spend too much time with people, especially girls.
Venting anger is tough. If I'm just normally mad, then I just try to get away from everyone (I hate it when people ask if you are okay when you obviously are not, and you can't tell them what's wrong because it's their existence that's bugging you.) and blow out. It goes away fairly quickly. If I'm in a dragon rage (that's what I call it), then there is no stopping me and it will generally burn out in an hour or two.
I do have a way of venting anger, but it is destructive and will probably get me sent to a mental hospital, so I will not mention it.
(February 23, 2013 - 5:42 pm)
Oh, wow. I never even saw the comments on this! Ruby, nice to know someone feels the same, and Admin, I think you're right! I've found that as long as I'm moving, I feel good. When I'm angry, I go on the treadmill and do heavy walking or running, or go outside and kick a ball around.
Thanks for your replies!
(May 6, 2013 - 3:04 pm)