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I NEED TO RANT! I am so so angry and sad and frustrated. I know nobody wants to hear me complain but I need this. I just started at a new school, in a new state, on a new coast. AND NO ONE LIKES ME. I'm not even kidding. I am so frustrated because there's this one group of girls who I would love to be friends with but one girl is pushing me away and I just feel so misplaced, like an unclaimed suitcase sent to the wrong address. What makes me so unlikable? Will somebody please just tell me? I know I haven't been very active lately and it's unfair to come back just to rant but this is wearing me down. i just need a hug to be honest but my dad is really mad that I'm that we're here. Sorry for this. I just need a little support.
I'm so sorry, Princess Juniper. Try to keep a smile on your face at school and your eyes open for others who will be welcoming. Join some activity that interests you where you may meet others with similar interests. Chatterboxers are really great at supporting each other, and I trust they will have helpful words for you. We love you! We do want to hear your concerns and help you out. Sending a big virtual hug (and warm chocolate chip cookies from Ladybug).
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submitted by Princess Juniper, age she/her, Unknown
(September 28, 2021 - 9:25 pm)
(September 28, 2021 - 9:25 pm)
Hey, Princess Juniper!
Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry! That sounds so hard and frustrating... do you have Microsoft Teams or Zoom or Google Meet or something? That way you can keep in touch with your old friends- or even try to see them in person every week or month or something. As for the girl who keeps pushing you away, I know exactly why- I've even felt that way myself. She and her clique have probably had tons of sleepovers together, or are in the same extracurricular activities, or have been a group of friends for lots of years. The girl in question doesn't want another person, in her eyes, "butting in." She doesn't want another member of their tight-knit group. And you're the new kid, so I'm sure it'd be hard to make friends with people who had been with each other for awhile now.
That doesn't mean all the others feel the same, though. Keep trying to make friends - and they'll pop up in the most unexpected of places! Like the admin says, join clubs! Try to find your people. One of my best ever friends was once the new girl.
And hug your dad. Even if you're mad at each other, it'll probably be a whole lot more helpful and more personal than us bunch of internet strangers.
(September 29, 2021 - 7:13 am)
Thanks Admins and Tsuki. I definitely will try to FaceTime my old friends. Thanks for the support!
(September 29, 2021 - 9:03 am)
aww, Juni, that's terrible!! *hugs* You're an awesome person, never forget that. and don't be sorry for ranting. sending lot's of love and positivitea <3<3<3<3
(September 29, 2021 - 11:07 am)
Hi Juni, I'm so sorry. I don't have much to add to what Tsuki and the Admin said, except for: don't change yourself to fit in with other people. I know it can be really hard to feel misplaced and left out. But I think you will be much happier in the long run being true to yourself, and you tend to make much closer and more true friends if you are your own unique self and don't try to change to fit in with others. Maybe try joining or starting groups that focus on things you are interested in; like a reading club/group, or swim team, or writing club/group, or a volunteer group, etc. Your school and library are great places to look for these things.
Try talking to your dad when you feel the time right. You and your dad can probably really understand eachother's frustration and stranded feeling in living in a new place. Journaling may be something that could help you, it always really helps me in letting out all my pent up feelings.
I'm sending positive wishes your way.
(September 29, 2021 - 11:28 am)