I need advice...

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I need advice...

I need advice...

Okay, so there's this guy I really like. Let's call him Austin (not his real name). Sometimes I think that he likes me, and other times I'm not sure. 

Signs he likes me: He asks me advice on things, he talks to me a lot, and when he's talking to me he looks at me straight in the eyes. Also, every week in my French class someone has to write the date on the board. Austin did it last week, and he had to pick someone for next week. All of his friends were saying, "pick me!" And he picked me.

Signs he might not like me: Every time I text "Hey, what's up?" He says "nothing." He also doesn't text me first.

 

What do you guys think?

Thanks (a high schooler) 

submitted by Anonymous
(December 19, 2018 - 1:44 pm)

Well first of all: If you are worried about those signs that he might not like you, then don't be worried. From my experience, I've just seen that boys are like that. They don't say much, so like when you ask them something, such as "Hey what's up?", they'll usually text back with something like "nothing," or like "nothing much," or something like that. If you want more of an answer, than just "nothing," then ask more specific questions to figure out what's up. For example: ask "How was your day?" Or another one: "What did you do today?" Usually you will get more response from that, and then continue the conversation from there. 

And just because he doesn't text you first, it doesn't really mean that he might not like you, The crush I like has never really texted me first, unless he really needs someone to talk to, or he needs advice. It's usually me who has to be the first one to always text him, and I think that's ok. Just don't do it too much, and see what he does. 

If you want to try a short experiment, then try not texting him for a couple days. See if he ever texts you back first, before you text him first. 

Also, if he comes to you for advice, then I would say that he thinks you're a pretty great friend. He trusts you, and knows that you will give him honest feedback. From what you've told us in this post, I think there is a very high chance that he likes you. 

Hope this helps a little bit.  

If I may ask, how long have you known Austin for?  

submitted by Joan B. of Arc, age 16, Camelot
(December 19, 2018 - 4:49 pm)

Thanks! I started to get to know him a little better in August. We went to the same middle school, but I didn't know him then.

submitted by Anonymous
(December 19, 2018 - 7:38 pm)

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submitted by TOP, age TOP, TOP
(December 19, 2018 - 4:50 pm)

While I’m not particularly qualified to answer this, I think that it’s plausible he likes you back. Embarrassment and confusion and fear of rejection may, uh, hinder his ability to talk and text with you, while he’s still interested in you enough to act a bit like it. But what do I know? And I have no actual advice. *shrugs* Sorry. 

submitted by coyotedomino , age 15, Lost
(December 20, 2018 - 1:49 am)

Joan pretty much got it all. But the French gave me an idea; c’est la langue de l’amour, so maybe you could study with him outside of class? It could be a way to get to know him better so you can further signs more easily. 

Mexi says gyyg! 

submitted by Viola?, age Secret, Secret
(December 21, 2018 - 6:19 am)
submitted by Top top tippity top
(December 21, 2018 - 1:49 pm)

Mm, I can't really give good advice on the entire situation. I think it's possible he likes you, but honestly I'm not that great at telling things like this.

What I can say though, is don't read too much into how people text or how frequently, or if he texts you first or not...that's something people overthink way too much, like "oh, you need to wait this long to reply to someone, can't use this kind of punctuation, etc". I have friends who type long paragraphs like me, some that give short answers, some that text me back quickly, some that don't. I vary the way I text people too, some friends I know I can text them about literally anything, some I text if I need something, etc. So....don't get too wrapped up in that.

submitted by Owlgirl, age 15
(December 22, 2018 - 10:54 am)