I had a best friend when I was little,not was really awesome but we sort of argued and broke up. Right now I've been calling this one girl my best freind but she's sort of immature and I feel like I have to take care of her all the time. I know this sounds weird but my real best friend is my older cousin by four years, I see him usually once a week but he's moving to college soon, I'll really miss him. He's the that I can tell anything and I feel he will tell me anything. Now I'll only see him a few times a year and when he's done with college he could move away.:(  I know how you feel though, I'm hoping that I'll find someone awesome at my new school and we'll be good friends.

I had a best friend once...

I met her in 2nd, but we became BFFs in 3rd and through 4th. We understood one another, laughed together, shared... It was fun...

But then I moved a 4-hour drive away. And, well, with a) distance and b) change, we kind of drifted apart. We still have the rare email exchange, but we aren't super besties anymore. 

For me it just... happened.

Um, now the closest thing I have to a BFF are my two friends. We met in language class and became friends; we'd all seen Ponyo and were crazy, so we ran around yelling "HAAAAAM!!!" togetherness and it eventually developed into a friendship. But next year (in a week) we're going to different schools (WHYYYYY, GATE????) and we only see each other on Starbucks Saturdays and through email. 

It just... happens. 

Making friends can sometimes be a difficult process, but sometimes things just work out between two people. 

My first best friend and I met in kindergarten. It was the first day of school and we had both sat next to each other. I said "hi" and they said "hi" back, and that was enough to get our friendship going. We played together outside at recess - mostly swings and tag - and eventually began finding out that we had similar interests. We could talk to each other about a lot or we could just hang out. They're always caring and willing to help if I need it. We were there for each other, but good also have a good time. Through the years there have been ups and downs, and while we are still friends currently, circumstances have brought us apart just a bit.

My other best friend and I met in a very special way. I saw that you had earlier commented that you had been praying for a friend.  I really encourage you to keep doing that and to not give up hope! This is actually how I found my other best friend. I had been praying for a true friend, one that I could tell everything to, for eight years. And a couple years ago, God brought this friend into my life. It took a long time for my prayers to be anwered, but God did not disappoint! This friend is more than I had ever prayed for! We are very close and can tell each other everything that is going on in our lives - the good times, the difficulties, the failures, the dreams, the hopes, the fears, everything. And the best part is that we have no worries about the other judging us, not caring or laughing at us. In other words, we trust each other. We also can have a good time with each other, joke around and laugh together. 

Having a best friend is an amazing experience and a true blessing. A best friend is always there for you no matter what is happening. You can count on them to listen to you, understand, encourage you, make you smile and laugh, even if you're upset. You can trust them. You can laugh together. You can just be yourself around them and they will love you with your quirks, mistakes, virtues and all. I guess that for both these people, we just knew that we were best freinds because we had the same components I mentioned in all of what I've written so far; we can trust each other and have a good time together. Neither of my two best friends and I ever proposed to be best friends. Each of my best friends started out as strangers with a common interest or experience, and then we became acquaintances. As we talked and hung out more, we became friends and once we completely trusted each other with everything and knew each other, it just felt like we were best friends. It was sort of a mutual decision that devoloped over time. 

So, I guess that's my experience with best friends. Keep up the prayers for your friend, Katydid. It took eight years for mine to be answered, and with patience and trust, I know God can answer your prayers too. 

Good for you for trying to reach out to people and trying to
get a new friend. For a long time, I was just waiting and watching
people - I have a hard time reaching out. I used to be in a homeschool co-op where it was really small and everyone knew everyone
(since there were maybe six kids in each age group spanning two or
three years) and I had some great friends (and nemisises) there. But
because it was so small, it fell apart after a few years, and I'm
back on square one - my parents aren 't exactly the most social.

I have some good friends now, but I'm more of a loner - and I'm
used to that. I'm glad I have friends, but at this new and changing
co-op, I'm going to have to challenge myself like you are this year. 

I notcied your comment about you friend
not being a Christian, and that counting against her. I understand
some of what you're saying, but may I say something of my own? I don't
know this girl, but just because she's not Christian doesn't
necessarily mean that she can't understand things like that. Don't
rule people out as friends just because they're not Christian. If
they act profane or snobby or uncaring because of it to an alarming
degree, then I see a point. But otherwise, it seems. . . I don't know.
Harsh?

I'm not a Christian. I'm a Unificationist, and some people
who hear that think that means I'm parts of a wicked and crazy,
mindwashed cult who has been decieved since childbirth, as was my
father before me and yadayadayada. That's like saying that every
Muslim is a terrorist, every Jew killed Jesus and every Christian . .
. you get my point? I'm just realizing that
many of my friends at co-op think I'm a Christian
because they know me from a Christian homeschool group. I'm afraid
that they'll reject me if I tell them, and I'll lose their awesome
friendship because of something I can't change. They understand me because many of my beliefs
and theirs are the same, and I feel safe around them. I'm not allowed
to talk about my faith at the co-op because we signed terms
of faith, but many are finding me online -
and I've been changing my profiles on certain sites so they won't
know that I'm not a Christian. I haven't straight out lied to them, just skirted around the topic or religion. But I'm still so afraid. 

That was long, and I guess I wanted to get something off my shoulders. Just . . . don't judge her by one small fact - wait and see how she acts because of it. I would understand why you wouldn't want to play Truth or Dare, but I can also see people not understanding.